Scared.....most people are....at least 51% Fear is a feeling...can't tell you 'not' to have it Feelings have a mind of their own There's anothing feeling called anger It get's a lot of attention...more than fear I think people are more afraid to talk about fear Anyway...because Anger can manifest itself destructively most intelligent people realize that the problem is NOT the feeling of Anger....but.... how we process and express it Sooooo.... The problem isn't getting rid of the FEAR...but processing and expressing it....which..btw... YOU are doing right now. Wish I could be more helpful All I can really do is confirm that your post IMO is an appropriate way to process and express your fear Hope someone else can be more helpful
BCberean
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I'm in love and ... scared !!!
by RAF insorry need to share and to talk about it and maybe in giving me your opinion, talking about your experience, i'll find other ways to deal with it.. .
i just turned 40 (does this have something to do with it) never been scared about the matter ... but now i wonder what kind of love i've really experienced before (any kind of appeals like complicity for instance, the need to share something in particular with someone, the need to give someone some love?
) i dunno for real .... i'm trying to get this out of my head but i can't, i can't, i can't - i'm trying to get interested in other guys but it's just not the same ... and i even wonder how i came to the conclusion that i do love him !!!.
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Is it SABOTAGE or HONESTY
by BCberean ini think i just lost another man because of the 'sex within the confines of marriage' issue.. my sister said i should wait til i have them hooked before i make it clear where i stand.. doesn't seem quite honest to me......but....i'm wondering if i'm somehow sabotaging the relationship.. .
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BCberean
hmmmm......
Since I believe love is a 'choice' ie a 'decision'...not a 'feeling'
One needs TIME to gather data
As for the second option...twould take a Miracle...
but then again.....I spose that's where 'prayer' comes in
If this relationship folds.... I'll be 'toast' as far as relating to someone else
Takes me a 'long' time to go through that 'grief' process thing
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Do they mean WTS or Dubs?
by TopHat inon tuesday, july 31, 2007, jehovah's witnesses in turkey received a. letter of certification confirming that the "association for the support.
of jehovah's witnesses" has been officially registered.
the witnesses.
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BCberean
hmmmm....what's this all about I wonder?
Is Turkey the only country doing this?
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Is it SABOTAGE or HONESTY
by BCberean ini think i just lost another man because of the 'sex within the confines of marriage' issue.. my sister said i should wait til i have them hooked before i make it clear where i stand.. doesn't seem quite honest to me......but....i'm wondering if i'm somehow sabotaging the relationship.. .
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BCberean
I wish....sure would make things easier.
I'm deathly afraid of sex 'out of context'Remember that song quoting Ecclesiastes....
To Everything there is a SEASON
turn...turn...turnI never did understand the significance of the words
???? 'turn..turn...turn....???
But I sure 'get' the message of that song................................THERE IS A TIME AND PLACE FOR EVERYTHING..................................
RAF...thankyou
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Is it SABOTAGE or HONESTY
by BCberean ini think i just lost another man because of the 'sex within the confines of marriage' issue.. my sister said i should wait til i have them hooked before i make it clear where i stand.. doesn't seem quite honest to me......but....i'm wondering if i'm somehow sabotaging the relationship.. .
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BCberean
It was a GOOD thing that I didn't have an initial overwhelming physical attraction for him
In my experience chemistry can develop...
Believe me...the physical contact we did have showed me that that element was definitely there
which is why.....I was constantly 'ducking' him didn't want things to get out of hand
I even started believing that God was helping this relationship ....because....
I found myself having no desire to kiss him.
.I'' was'' a little worried.tho
...thought I'd have to 'train' him how to kiss.........
.but.........then....
one day he was on his way to work....and he kissed me and that 'particular' time
it got me really'' **spinning**.....surprised me???!!!!
I couldn't figure out WHY....and then..
.after I thought about it
I realized it was because I """wasn't afraid """"of where kissing him would lead us
because......he was on his way to work....... and
there was 'no time'take it further.
My mind is in control.....I hate to sound ungrateful...but sometimes...
I wish I could turn it off....just sometimes
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Is it SABOTAGE or HONESTY
by BCberean ini think i just lost another man because of the 'sex within the confines of marriage' issue.. my sister said i should wait til i have them hooked before i make it clear where i stand.. doesn't seem quite honest to me......but....i'm wondering if i'm somehow sabotaging the relationship.. .
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BCberean
I met him the end of May.
He wasn't pushy....was a great dancer...nice and clean cut..... NOT a JW.
......soooooo....
I thought we could be friends.........
I was still 'active'.......when the DC came around I invited him.
I realized that he probably wouldn't become a Jehovah's Witness so I told him I couldn't see him anymore
During that 3 week separation period I DIDN't miss him....
I had something more important on my mind....and besides
I felt morally and intellectually superior...after all he wasn't a JW
During that 3 week separation period I finally went on the Internet
The biggest impact was the UN NGO affiliation ...
I ran into him again while I was in the midst of my 'shock and denial' experience
He's told me he loves me
I've told him I can't say that yet...because...
to me...
saying ' I Love You' means the same as...... I have 'decided to commit'...for ALL time
Something has just occured to me as I write this post....
Could it be that I am in the 'shock and denial' stage now re this relationship
Sure feels like it.....after all the attention and loving acts and compliments...
I still can't believe he would let me go
I guess this weekend was the clincher because we went to a music festival and it was near my house and too far for him to travel back to his house an hours drive away...sooo
He slept in the living room...'not' his choice
Yup ....I spose it's finally SUNK in....
I miss him
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Will Races Disappear?
by nvrgnbk inas the world becomes a smaller and smaller place, due to advances in technology, there is increased opportunity for persons of different races and cultures to meet and start families.. will the the differences between the races start to disappear as a result?.
do you believe this would be a positive or negative development?.
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BCberean
My grandchildren are.....
Scottish.....
Upper Canada English
Metis(french and native)..not confirmed but suspected
Jewish....and.....
Black
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Is it SABOTAGE or HONESTY
by BCberean ini think i just lost another man because of the 'sex within the confines of marriage' issue.. my sister said i should wait til i have them hooked before i make it clear where i stand.. doesn't seem quite honest to me......but....i'm wondering if i'm somehow sabotaging the relationship.. .
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BCberean
OTWO...????.....please explain^^^^^^^^^^how is it 'hitting him.....
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Is it SABOTAGE or HONESTY
by BCberean ini think i just lost another man because of the 'sex within the confines of marriage' issue.. my sister said i should wait til i have them hooked before i make it clear where i stand.. doesn't seem quite honest to me......but....i'm wondering if i'm somehow sabotaging the relationship.. .
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BCberean
I t finally sunk in...and he was making it's over noises....
I suggested he think about it for a week...
if I call him it would be like I was backing off from my position...wouldn't it.....grrrrr.......oh the high price of 'integrity.....
Besides....I be a 'chicken' with pride....he did such a good job of convincing me how much he cared...and how 'beautiful I am......
I'm finding it hard to accept that he could leave me....wonderful 'old school' me....
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What's Your BEST Asset & Worst Quality?
by minimus inbe honest.. my best quality is my humility.. my worst is that i lie..
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BCberean
My best quality..'.honesty'
....hmmmm...wait a sec.....maybe not.....ummmmm.......?????
Worst quality..........'indeciveness'.......