Well, we've been having a lot of problems, and we've decided to get divorced. I hope some of you can help me understand the teachings regarding this issue. Here's my questions:
1. I don't hate the guy. I want him to be able to remarry someday. He says the only way that can happen is if I cheated on him. I plan to spend the night at my best friend's house, and come back and report to him that I cheated. I told him that I was going to cheat on him and asked him if he believed me. He said he did. We both know deep down inside that this isn't the case, but my best friend is going to try to put a hickey on my neck so that it looks like I had a wild time. Instead, I'll be getting drunk with her and her girlfriend. Is this sufficient enough to "prove" adultery on my part?
2. I told him that I would be willing to attend the watchtower study and talk on a Sunday after he signs the divorce papers and report myself to the elders and my sinful, adulterous ways. Will this be enough, or will I have to go into sordid details of the "affair"? I can get pretty graphic if they like...as I have a great imagination for that sort of thing.
3. If for any reason down the road, he grows up a little and decides he's made a huge mistake by divorcing me...does he have the ability to marry me again if I don't find someone else by that time?
4. He said he was always taught that if we could be friends with each other, that we shouldn't be getting divorced in the first place. I find this hard to swallow since it appears that we are better off as friends than a married couple. He's really confused about this and so am I. He's not baptized, he's considered an inactive publisher.
5. Let's say down the line he manages to get baptized while we are divorced. Say he's had his fill of growing up and I wind up being free. Can he marry me again or will he be disfellowshipped? I can't imagine that I would wind up marrying him again, but you never know. Our problems stem from his immaturity, and he needs to get away from me and grow up. He was so sheltered growing up that our relationship always seemed lopsided as far as me being the one to make decisions and stuff.
I'll probably have more questions later. I already told him that I have no intentions of joining the organization, since they seem to forbid things that really is none of their business.