When Loneliness Sets In ?

by Big Jim 10 Replies latest jw friends

  • Big Jim
    Big Jim

    Since I have left the non-truth it seems like sometimes loneliness sets in regardless of what you do do prevent it.
    I suppose the main reason it happens for me is that my family still is very involved in the non-truth and I tend to not to have nothing to do with any JWS at all, even though my wife has bookstudy and field service at our home.
    Well I guess that goes with the territory when you make a firm conviction to take a stand against something you know not to be true.

    Here are some quotes on this subject for anyone who likes quotes.

    Shakespeare, Leonardo Da Vinci, Benjamin Franklin, and Lincoln never saw a movie, heard a radio, or looked at a TV They had loneliness and knew what to do with it. They were not afraid of being lonely because they knew that was when the creative mood in them would mark.

    Courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace. The soul that knows it not, knows no release from little things; knows not the livid loneliness of fear.

    When friendship disappears then there is a space left open to that awful loneliness of the outside world which is like the cold space between the planets. It is an air in which men perish utterly.

    Leadership is the other side of the coin of loneliness, and he who is a leader must always act alone. And acting alone, accept everything alone.

    At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with one's lost self.

    Loneliness is never more cruel than when it is felt in close propinquity with someone who has ceased to communicate.

    To most people loneliness is a doom. Yet loneliness is the very thing which God has chosen to be one of the schools of training for His very own. It is the fire that sheds the dross and reveals the gold.

    Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.

    Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.

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  • Roamingfeline
    Roamingfeline
    Loneliness is never more cruel than when it is felt in close propinquity with someone who has ceased to communicate.
  • Roamingfeline
    Roamingfeline
    Loneliness is never more cruel than when it is felt in close propinquity with someone who has ceased to communicate.

    Sounds like you're in this situation for sure, Big Jim. Time is what you need, and also, get out there and make friends in the world. They're not bad, I can tell you from experience. Been right where you are sitting, and I know the feeling well. Hugs!

    RCat

  • God_knows
    God_knows

    Hello Big Jim

    I am really sorry you feel lonely. I would like to love you and be your friend if you will let me. you can write to me anytime.

  • Roamingfeline
    Roamingfeline

    Bringing this to the top, Big Jim. Sometimes other subjects push things down to the bottom that would otherwise get more response.

    Good luck to ya,
    RCat

  • outnfree
    outnfree

    BigJim,

    I can't imagine being in your situation. I used to feel lonely in an opposite way. I was the only one in my household actually "serving Jehovah" and so could never hope to have the "privilege" of a book study in my home, dinner parties with the "Friends," etc. I grew discouraged being the spiritual widow with faithless children.

    Now it seems you are discouraged being the spiritual widower with faithful family members!

    If I recall correctly, you are not DF'd or DA'd? Therefore, you could still lead family studies? Can you lead the family right out alongside you?

    In the meantime, perhaps taking off into the sunset on book study nights to do something for yourself that you really enjoy -- you know, something like what you were always gonna do once paradise got here? RCat is right. Some worldly friends are likely to be just the ticket!!!

    best to you,
    outnfree

  • Roamingfeline
    Roamingfeline

    OutnFree, I was in your shoes at one time. Only member in the family in the "untruth". And just my kids. Glad they came out with me! It was a lonely existance, never getting invited to any get-togethers, after they stopped the congregations from having ones for everybody.

    Glad to be free!
    RCat

  • somebody
    somebody

    Big Jim,

    I'm sorry to hear about your lonliness. I agree that time makes a big difference too. And like others have offered, try and get out and do things with people.

    My thoughts are with you and yours.

    peace,
    somebody

  • joelbear
    joelbear

    Big Jim,

    First a big hug.

    I was totally involved in the watchtower, so I lost everyone. But, then again, I never really had them.

    I get desperately lonely for my old friends from time to time. I write about my feelings here on the board.

    I try to view being alone as solitude not loneliness and feel the best when I do as you advise in your post and try to create something.

    When I am with my new friends I am very happy. But, I agree with you about your feelings about old friends and family.

    Shunning is evil. I think its marks the witnesses as the furtherest thing from true christianity out of all denominations.

    hugs again

    Joel

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