Thanks for sharing your story with us. I'm so happy for you that it went so well, you are great parents. It's amazing how perceptive kids are, aren't they. I love to hear when the whole family leaves together, it will make you much closer. Plus you have each other for much needed support.
I'll keep you in my prayers when you tell your parents.
I have a story I'd like to share with you when my daughter was 3 years old (that was 20 years ago), she was very insightful for her age. My Mom (not a jw) babysat my daughter for me while I worked full time. My "wordly" Mom did this out of love, I couldn't afford to pay for daycare at the time, and she did this for free. My daughter blurted out to my Mom "Grandma you are BAD because you don't go to the Kingdom Hall." I guess my 3 year old was actually paying attention to the ugly teachings at the Kingdom Hall. This devastated my Mom, she was so hurt, she didn't tell me (she told me later that she was afraid of losing me), but she told my Dad.
My Dad was livid (non jw), so he confronted my hubby and asked him "what is that (expletive) religion teaching, that a 3 year old would tell her Grandma that she is bad?" Well, my hubby tried to explain it to my Dad in that gobblygook JW language that all JWS seem to master, "no, that is not what we teach, blah blah blah." While in my head I'm thinking "yeah, that's exactly what we teach, but we just don't state it as clearly as a child." JWS sugar coat all of the crap so it isn't so hard to swallow. Actually, that was the first time I actually got to thinking that something wasn't quite right. Out of the mouth of babes!
My daughter left the JWS when she was 18 (she saw threw the whole sham, never baptized), then because of her leaving and the way she was treated, I looked into the JW religion and left also. My hubby is still a JW.
Hapgood