since i sent my DA letter

jurs

things have certainly been eventful since i sent my DA letter. it hasn't been announced at the meeting yet, but plenty seem to know!!!!! Monday a pioneer sister called me. we weren't especially close but our kids were. she called about me going with her on a study (i already knew she knew , but she was pretending like she didn't know)I knew this because my kids were informed that day at school, they could never play at their house again. I called her on it!!! i asked why the invitation when she darn well knew i DA myself. I was already pretty mad at her because i heard that she called my kids spoiled brats, just a few weeks before. I let her know i knew and said a good riddance to them all!!! Yesterday she was at my house bright and early to apologize. she wanted to know why i DA'd myself. i explained the hypocrisy i saw with elders. the double standards i.e. An elders family can get away with things others can't. unfriendly congregations, strange superstitions, (smurfs ect.) unbiblical rules. the burden of all the rules and what are they hiding??? why the forbidden material???? she was speechless. she couldn't answer any of it and admitted so. she didn't want to see apostate material. i didn't push it. I told her i was furious with the organization because they robbed me of trust. not just in them but all religions!!! This sister use to always get on my nerves. but yesterday when i was talking to her i felt like we bonded. she felt many of those things too and shared her painful experiences. we were on the same page. only i disobeyed and looked into apostate literature. it ended up a sad parting. i would have enjoyed now being her friend. she always seemed self rightous and pompous but yesterday she was as lost as i was. it was interesting and sad. ..............also i work in a elementary school kitchen JW kids are asking me if i'm going to go to meetings. they never do this. the word spreads fast... JURS

Skimmer

Hello jurs:

Who knows? Perhaps you have started Sister Pioneer onto the path to the real truth.

JT

Your post was very interesting-

i have often wondered why persons like yourself feel the Need to
WRITE A LETTER -

for some they have told me that it gives them closure and for others it gives them a chance to get
off thier chest how they feel. which i fully understand.

personally for me i would never waste a stamp to send something to Larry Mo and Curly=
who make up most Service committtes in most congo in my view

i guess my views are molded by my background- knowing that the entire concept of "Disassociation"
is the brainchild of the Legal Dept up in Patterson

i see no need to give Philip Brumley any joy along with the rest of the gang on the legal desk
any joy

instead i perfer to be a thorn in thier side- it truly pisses them off to know that you can talk to
any jw at anytime and just drop all kinds of seeds of doubt and they can't shut you down

the entire reason they want that LETTER or that Classification applied to one so badly is due to

1. legal reasons esp in some countries

2. they know that it will trigger the "NoListen.exe" and the "Shutdown.dll" file that jw are programmmed with
the moment they hear one is DF or DA

it's like a ATM cash machine on the 3rd try with the wrong PIN Number it shuts comepletly down

as i tell my wife they will just have to come and get my Black Behind cause i ain't wasting no stamp
to send a lettter to Mo Larry and Curly

but i fully understand and respect those who so chose to do so

james

jurs

dear jt
i wrote the letter for several reasons
1. I'm incredibly angry and it felt good.
2. i didn't want to be disfellowshipped. i want the congregation to know i left because i wanted to not because i had to.
3. Right now i can't seem to tell eneough people that its a cult!!! and it feels good knowing it will get back to them.
4. I just realized i gave up 9 years of my life . (i quit living before my baptism 7 years ago.)I took away so much from my kids that the guilt is unreal.
I'll be damn if i walk away quietly!!!!!!!JURS

Camay

Wow that is crazy ! But I am glad you can lead a normal life
with you children. I am really surprised that you left on your
own. My understanding is that it takes alot for a JW to leave
the organization.

You sound like a smart & strong woman. Organized religion is over
rated. I believe in GOD and have faith that he knows
are hearts but NO ONE needs to be told what to do.

At least your kids will be able to enjoy somethings that bring
familys closer. Celebrating Birthdays etc. If you are a good person
and try to have morals you will find that you will have GODs blessing
he wants us to be happy and treat others as we would treat ourselves.

Good Luck to you and your family. = )

JT

I fullly understand your anger and pain- we all have it due to what we went thru by being in wt

your reasons are what most often times i hear people say.

and i guess it due to the fact that we can't really get to the ones responsible-

typical the avg loyal jw will get mad at

1. the friends
2 the elders
3 and maybe just maybe the CO

but the real movers and shakers up at bethel- they rarely are even touched

the poor elder is no more than a COG in a wheel- he is so far down the POWER TOTEM POle IT
aint' even funny.

so often when folks leave they lash out at the poor janitor (elder) who is playing spiritual man
it is sad- that wt takes these guys with no skill or training and puts Mo Larry and Curly in charge
of making life decisions for folks- that is so sad-

but i'm glad you are now exp the real freedom that comes from knowing that you can indeed
stand on your 2 feet esp being a Woman

the org hates women and ask any sister and she will tell you

my wife despite the fact that we ran in the right circles hated the way sisters were view- dumb and
not worth listening to

Trust me on this one- things will work out well for you

my wife and i are back in college

we have over 60yrs in wt and we are only 38- i wasted my best yrs as a young man by being at
Bethel for us now it is catch up time

but we are loving it having our SAT morning to ourselves after selling books from the time i was 5yrs old
till 35 yrs of age

i wish you well

james

jurs

Camay,
Its funny you think i'm crazy , i finally feel sane!!!! Its a piece of cake for me to leave. i have NO FAMILY in the organization.It would rip out my heart if i did. I don't have many close friends in the organization. My husbands job has required uto move from congregation to congregation. i was only a witness because i believed it. Now i don't. Its quite a relief. all the rules are a heavy load. I'm tired of the guilt and fear running my life. I'm not walking away i'm skipping!!!JURS

Thirdson

Welcome to a real life Jurs. I'm with JT on this, I prefered to walk away and keep the ability to question my JW relatives and occasional contacts. However, you chose what you wanted to do to make an exit and let everyone know how you feel. Well good for you. Sometimes it takes a bold stance like that to jolt the others. May be it will, at least you've got some people talking.

Best wished to you,

Thirdson

'To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing'

Pathofthorns

Great post and congratulations Jurs. For me, I had the letter written and ready to put in the mailbox, but I was persuaded to go the route JT suggested for the same reasons.

There's still that part of me that wanted to go out in style like you did. But most of my family and nearly everyone I knew was somehow tied to the religion and this for me seemed the better way. I'm glad you could just put it all behind you and move on. Glad you feel great and I wish you the best.

Path

Tina

Hi jurs and Congrats!!
I chose not to write a letter for the same reasons stated by thirdson and jt,but I can understand why some do. WTG! regards,Tina

Carl Sagan on balancing openness to new ideas with skeptical scrutiny...."if you are open to the point of gullibility and have not an ounce of skeptical sense,you cannot distinguish useful ideas from worthless ones."

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