Ok, with all this talk about beliefs and whatnot I thought this might be a good post.. I have addressed it before but I think I can make it clearer now.
It kind of comes down to this: There's no such thing as a true thoughts, but all thoughts are real. All thoughts are real simply in that you're having the thoughts - even if it's not true, it is true that you are having a thought. But no thoughts are real in that none of the thoughts are the things you're thinking about, they are only processes that are going on in your head! I mean, it would be like if you have a bunch of model airplanes and you thinking you can take a squadron of F-16's and go fight - that would be silly. Your thoughts are only models for reality.
Unfortunately this is a mistake most people make with religion, and even relationships. As nice as the thoughts or even feelings are, they are simply stuff that's going on in your mind and body. I find it sad when someone who thinks they know a person project their idea(l) on to them, whereas it is only how they think of and feel about him or her. This applies to God too, or any thing really. It doesn't have to be a bad idea or feeling or even an inaccurate (which is only relatively so) or inappropriate one, but if the mistake is that they think their concept or feeling about them is the real deal, they are only falling in love with their own thought or feeling.
Now in saying this I realize it may be a sad thought for some, (still yours, btw) but the truth is you can really connect with a person intimately, just as you can connect with reality - without conceptualizing about it. You just interact, be a part of it. Thinking can certainly be there too, but in that case it isn't a matter of taking some little bit of information then weaving a big story out of it, whether it's about a person or whatever. At any given time, you are not only thinking but also have other stuff going on inside you and around you - it's just a matter of being open to everything. We say it's good to have an opened mind, but that really can be kind of misleading. What is the mind open to?? More mind? Just stuff other people's mind generate? If those people you open to is just in their own mind then just being open to their mind will only keep you in thought! Even if they have more than just an opened mind, you connecting with them only on that level limits you to the mind only. So having said that, don't think about this too much, or atleast really think if you just want to think - but sooner or later you're gonna do things other than thought.