What attitude do I enjoy seeing? Thoughtfullness. This goes for anyone not just men. People who value the little things, and express this enjoyment in small things, and share those small things with others constantly amaze me and give me a warm fuzzy feeling.
Actions? Again ties into thoughtfullness. Sending an e-mail about nothing in particular, just to say I am thinking of you, or a post-it note with the same sentiments. Any time a guy is willing to be a goofball to just try and make me laugh I will feel gratitude toward the effort. Exasperation comes when you try to impress me with either manly bar fight stories, how much money you make, how many women you banged, what kind of car you drive, how much you can bench press etc. BORING! Exasperation comes when you try to alter how I behave, and criticise what I do. I don't do that to you, I would respect the same in return. More exasperation comes when after we have had a lovely evening, and I tell you so, you keep asking me if I am having a good time, or constantly need to be assured of the status of our relationship. Also just as annoying is being told how all women are psycho, and constantly talking about your ex. No one is free from blame in a relationship, she probably thinks you are just as psyho.
Genuine compliments are ALWAYS appreciated. Do I think your minds are only on the one thing, let's not kid ourselves, they ususually are, and just a little hint, ours usually are too. But you can easily fake us out if you compliment something non-physical, like wit, intelligence, laugh, etc. But if you tell us what a great body we have, eyes, boobs, whatever--we tend to think that's ALL you value us for.
All I ask is to be treated with respect. I think that goes for anyone. And both genders need some work in that respect.
And how might we/I do this more often, so that we may act naturally with more respect and affection towards you?
You should ALWAYS behave naturally--well as much as possible, and if respect and affection are not natural for you--well then don't fake it! You will be found out eventually, and besides, if that's not a behavioral trait of yours, then why bother. Women need to accept men for what they are, just as men need to do the same on behalf of women. The genders are built and wired differently. Deal.
