Excellent question jgnat.
Ineffective parenting is usually characterized by expecting your kids to do more of what doesn't work. There is a kind of mindlessly soothing mantra in automatically repeating unhelpful ideas because to explore helpful ideas would be too disruptive of the "accepted order" of things.
Besides, if you know your kids are highly likely to stray, you don't necessarily welcome that inevitability; instead, you fill their growing minds with lots of emotional-blackmail crap so that when the chips are down in life (as happens to the best of humans), the little dears will come running back to a half-existence in the hall.
As a kid, I saw the "condition" under which some of the chastened younger ones came back: They looked miserable, awkward, resentful that they hadn't made it independently and resigned to never straying far from the JW orbit. Stories abound of some poor born-ins getting disfellowshipped 2, 3 or more times. That's a hell of a tortured way to get through life.
In any other context it's called "learned helplessness".