The only thing in this world we have complete unquestionable control over is our own mind, and our own thoughts, and how we choose to frame (or think about) things.
And when you throw away all of the layers of constructs
about how we think:
Religious mores,
Agendas,
Politics,
Dogmas,
Greed,
Self flagellation,
Social mores,
Cultural mores,
Speech,
Language,
Ambient abuse,
Behavioral chains of nonsense,
Yada yada yada,
When we begin to throw away all of those layers,
that frame our thinking,
how we actually think about stuff,
and how we came to think about stuff,
we can’t even say we control our body functions,
we can control how we think about body functions,
but we can’t control the body functions themselves, (women's hormones case and point)
to a point.
But how we think about those basic things forms the basis of 'who we are' and what we choose to do with ourselves.
If you get down to the core and live in the moment,
nothing else begins to matter,
I can’t control other people and what they say.
I can’t control other people and what they think and what they choose to hear.
I can’t control anything really.
Other than my own thoughts and how I choose to frame them.
It’s pretty simple.
When you begin to look at things through that lens.
I can’t control anything completely and unquestionably.
I can control my mind and how I choose to think about things. That’s it.