My parents threw me away

by mzmmom 37 Replies latest jw experiences

  • ABibleStudent
    ABibleStudent

    Hi mzmmom, You are alive. Your parents may be in a coma or dead. Happy New Year!! Yeah I know that it sucks that your parents are controlled by a dangerous cult, but why waste your life trying to please them.

    Are you planning to write to your parents about your feelings? If you are, keep it simple. You love them unconditionally, (worded incase you are not a Christian) there is no sense in continuing to disipline you by shunning you because you would rather believe that Jesus Christ is your mediator with God and not the WTBTS, and life is too short to talk about the WTBTS.

    Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

    Robert

  • OUTLAW
    OUTLAW

    This is where Loyal WBT$ JW Parents..................So be a Good JW or you`ll get..

    .............Put their exJW Kids..............................................Sparlocked..

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  • Finkelstein
    Finkelstein

    mzmmom, its your personal responsibility now to tell your own children why and how certain religious cults are

    evil and dangerous to the general population.

    You can apply that to the many other cults who shun or dispose of people who reject their forced agenda.

    .

    You must also remember that your parents are being controlled to do what they are doing to you through acts

    of fear and coercion, to be faithful and loyal to the WTS. it all costs even to death.

    .

    Your not alone many here are shunned under the same anti-social and apathetic criminal conditions.

  • SweetLittleMAJM
    SweetLittleMAJM

    This is my first post to this site.

    This is my little families experience of shunning.

    It has been about 1 ¾ years that our child and their spouse decided to leave our life and take our beautiful grandchildren with them. They are not Jehovah’s Witnesses. One of my brother’s two children ripped his cherished grandchildren out his life. None of his family has ever had anything to do with Jehovah’s Witnesses, they all are Catholic. When our children were little I did everything in my power to keep all their Grandparents a big part of their life. I put up with a lot of crap from my mother-in-law (not a JW), but she was such a big part of the kids’ lives and I could never even think of taking them away from her. It would have been stealing something precious from them. In this day and age the parents use their children as weapons. That is just the way of life now. There is nothing a grandparent, (UNCLES or aunties) can do; they have no rights where their grandchildren are concerned. Our child told me that if I ever had any concern about the grandchildren, just let them know. I did and all hell broke loose, and the little ones were out of our life. My poor husband had nothing to do with it. It was a very confusing time for him. I did say to my child “make sure that is what you want because I would never put myself, or grandchildren through it again”. We witnessed our Son go through the same sort of experience with them, and that was enough. I got an email from my child’s spouse informing me that there were consequences for my actions. I did get a phone call from my child to let me know we would talk at some future date. We never have. My emails were not answered; I was deleted as a Facebook friend, any access for photos on FB was not allowed, my beautiful little granddaughter was supposed to phone me and never did (not her choice I am sure), she had to have ex rays done on her little back and I never heard the results, had the two youngest grandchildren paraded in front of me in a store (found out the next day our child’s uncle had died so I left it up to others to phone and tell my child). So you see it is not just JW’s that cut loved ones out of a person’s life. In this case the people my heart breaks for are the grandkids and their grandpa. I did send a FB invite to my child this morning. We will see if anything comes of that. The blessing I received from my horrible experience is when I googled my child’s name this past April, in an attempt to find photos of my grandchildren, (someone had told me there where some online) it brought me to this site. Since then I have been here quite a bit, but my favorite site is Anointed JW. Just remember mzmmom, our prayers do get answered in ways we never expect. Sometimes they are answered right away and sometimes it can take years. Patience is the key. May you find peace with our heavenly Father and his Son Jesus.

  • wasblind
    wasblind

    Welcome SweetlittleMAJM

    There are a lot of reasons why people cut ties to family members

    Jehovah's Witnesses main reason to do so is based on thier religious beliefs.

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    Contrary to what Jehovah's Witnesses want outsiders to believe about thier religion in their 2009 July Awake

    Members are indeed forced to choose between family and religion

    .

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  • mzmmom
    mzmmom

    Thank you so much for all of replies here. I appreciate your support.

  • Simon
    Simon

    How about asking them why they are shunning you and who told them to.

    When they say the org or whatever, say "no ... WHO - I want some names of the people who told you to do it".

    Make it clear that THEY are the ones who decided to do this and they don't even know who told them to do it. Let them know it hurts. Don't give them the get-out that they are obyying Jehovah or any crap like that. Let them know that the responsibility and choice to do it rests squarely on them.

  • stillin
    stillin

    Mzzmom, did your parents teach you anything? I mean, about living a moral, productive life? Maybe you could thank them for building up some values that will last you a lifetime. It's probably true and your saying it may soften their hearts.

    stillin

  • LisaRose
    LisaRose

    Welcome, SweetLiittleMAJM. I am so sorry you lost contact with your grandchildren, that must me very painful. I have two grandchildren, they don't live near me, but I can see them, I cannot imagine not being allowed to see them. Maybe someday your daughter will relent and you will see them again, I hope so. You are right that these things happen to everyone, not just JWs. I have a sister in law who is having a thing with her own sister, suddenly she won't talk or come over and won't say why, she comes to family functions, but won't make eye contact or talk with anyone but her niece and nephew. She was openly rude to me, and I hardly know her. This is a woman in her sixties, I cannot imagine what she is thinking.

  • jgnat
    jgnat

    Hi, sweetlittle. You sound as heartbroken as your daughter. The misunderstandings remind me of the "ladder of inference".

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