Here was my story posted originally about 2 years ago.
And my extended story on jwrecovery:
http://www.jehovahswitnessrecovery.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=9&t=11416
Anyways, since then, I have told my parents I no longer want to be one of JW's. There was the expected tears and exsessive chats trying to get me to reconsider bla bla bla. I gave them my reasoning(beliefs, etc). I have since moved out into a place about 40 minutes from them. My entire known family(with the exception of one uncle) are ALL Jw's. I was spoken to by the elders only a couple of times. But that was before I even told my parents I wasn't doing it anymore. I was never disfellowshipped or anything...simply moved out and that was it(with some obvious nonsense in between).
But what I don't really understand is what has happened since then....or rather what HASN'T happened. (It's been over 3 months since I moved and at least 6 or 7 months since I've attended any meetings). When I left, I expected that they would slowly stop speaking to me. Or maybe I'd be secretly disfellowshipped or something. I mean, it's not like they don't know my position. They found out I was gay shortly after I stopped attending meetings. They know I went to a birthday party and associated with a disfellowshipped person(I guess nothing THAT serious but still....) My parents still contact me and we talk quite a bit. I had dinner with them last week and I visit on occasion. And they genuinely don't treat me any different. I still have a great relationship with them AND my grandparents who are also Jdubs. No one from the hall has said a word to me. NO ONE, not a single elder since BEFORE I was attending meetings! I found that strange considering the nightmares others had. Is this normal? Or is it still a matter of time? Are they waiting for me to make known a "disfellowshipping-worthy offense? Or am I simply in the "inactive" category? thoughts?