I sooo much enjoy being with my girls after I got reinstated last fall. I use pretty much energy (days and nights) thinking on how to serve small drops of TTATT (the truth about the truth) to them without going to far and make them feel uncomfortable. We have a very good relationship now, and they have accepted that I very seldom attend the meetings, but it is'nt ruining our relationship. Last meeting was memorial, and before that on in december. Elders have tried to make an appointment for sheperding visit, but I have thanked no, in a nice way which for now has been respected. BTW, I made a thread on that subject, but its gone!? Did I break any rule or something? Well, anyhow,
Then something helpfull happends.... I have a good friend who is an officially known apostate in my country. She has done some tv-programs, and been interviewed often, and has written a book about her upbringing, awakening, and exit from the cult. She's also a psycologist and have her own practice. Last week I "liked" her new facebook-profile on her psycologist-practice. The next day my eldest daughter texts me telling that a sister who we both are on facebook with, had unfriended me, her and my other daughter + 8 other JV-facebook-friends because I had linked to this apostate person. She argued that she might be the reason that some of her fb-friends accidentally would click on the link while "snooking" and get to read some of this apostates dreadfull stuff, she would not be found "guilty" of this, so better stop the chain. She wrote this to all of them, but not to me, the source. (Im sorry about my bad english formulating, I hope you understand the broad strokes) Another sister, her best friend, did the same, and she called me two days later saying she was seriously worried about me for sympathising with this person, and she urged me to go and talk to the elders to get some help!!!! And, if I did not go to the elders within a week, then the elders would be contacting me!!!!!!! So obviously she has taken this serious matter to the elders!!!Then she told me how much she loves me, and I mean alot to her and so on. I was prepared for this conversation because my daughter told me she would call. I just calmly thanked her for her concerns, that I liked her too, but I really could not see why all this fuss about nothing. And I have to tell, I did "unlike" this incriminating site just to calm people down and send the signal that I do not want to provoce. My apostate friend knows it does'nt change our relationship.
So 6 of the 8 Jw also unfriended me without telling me why. But not my girls! Both of them thinks this is a crazy reaction by these two sisters. And my son in law were so p....d when he heard, he almost called this sister to tell her his thaugths about it in big letters. My daughter talked him out of it. My youngest daughter, to comfort me after this idiotic incident, invited me down to her that night and we had a great evening, dining out together. So this is a good thing! They get to see the fanatism, how some (many) are completely brainwashed and unable to think for them selves. But the best part: My apostate friend was interviewed in a two hours long program broadcasted thru out the whole country this saturday. The subject was ofcours JW. I had'nt told my eldest about it. Then, half an hour in the program she text me that she and her husband was listening to the program and they both think she's reasonable and objective about things!!! I can't tell how happy this made me! I had them over this sunday, we had a great time, but we did'nt talk about it. My youngest would'nt understand and accept it at this moment. But overall, I can feel especially my eldest, there is some increacing light opening her mind gradually. Of cours I know it can be a long way, but I really feel optimistic about it! Just wanted to share with you