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If you had controlling parents
by mrsjones5 23 Replies latest social family
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LV101
No question about the "if" part. I will order this -- thanks for info.
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truthseekeriam
Okay,
So I'm a little controlling...but I'm working on it
I just think I now better...but I don't.
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snowbird
Tee hee hee.
I'm working on it from my end, also, TruthSeekeriam.
Syl
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mrsjones5
So I'm a little controlling...but I'm working on it
Which is great cuz at least you're aware. My mother has very few times of lucidity but I think for the mostpart she isn't aware of what she's done or continues to do. My brother told me that our mother admitted to playing her children against each but when he went back to her to talk about it she claimed she never said that.
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flipper
MRS. JONES - Excellent thread ! Thanks for posting. I think many of us can see some of those traits that might have been in our parents. Although I was lucky and had very open minded parents for being raised a JW. In their 80's they STILL are fairly open minded and respect I don't subscribe to the WT society's beliefs. I feel lucky having THOSE kind of parents. This is very helpful info. Thanks for posting it
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21stcenturywoman
All of these examples are exactly what I experienced during my JW childhood.
(Thanks for posting this information. I just purchased the book.)
TEN SIGNS YOU MAY HAVE HAD CONTROLLING PARENTSWhen you were growing up, your parents...
1. Overscrutinized your eating, appearance, hobbies, or social life
2. Pressured you with perfectionistic expectations or unattainable standards
3. Forbade you from questioning or disagreeing with them
4. Discouraged you from expressing anger, fear or sadness around them
5. Violated your privacy
6. Intimidated, manipulated or overpowered you
7. Discouraged your efforts to experiment and think for yourself
8. Gave you no say in household rules and responsibilities
9. Seemed unaware of the pain they caused you or others
10. Seemed unwilling to admit they were wrong
[edited to remove disruptive code]
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GLTirebiter
It's not just parents. Try replacing the word "parents" with "spouse" (or "ex-spouse", for that matter). The same dynamics often apply.
Those who had controlling parents as children often find themselves attracted to controlling partners as adults, and then the controlling partner inflicts that onto their children--and so another generation is afflicted.
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jeckle
awesome I gotta get that book!
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Snoozy
How about a book about having "Controlling Children"?
Snoozy