Thanks all for your kind words....and support.
I expect my kind, gentle brother who loves others without conditions attached will step back and not attend because he loves my sister and our niece so very much and wants their happiness more than anything. My neice (who had to make this choice in order to see her only girl cousin) will make it through the day but the sadness is overwhelming. It should be the happiest time of her life - instead - this!!! I expect she will be angry, very angry later but not now - they are just trying to survive for a couple more weeks.
The odd thing about all of this is that up until a few weeks ago everyone in the family freely associated with our brother - by making a personal decision that it was okay. They all attended my son's wedding (not JW) - I have pictures.... and - are you ready for this - my brother's wedding - and he was DF'd. WTF!!!
Has some new LAW been announced recently? Nope - it was that someone outside the family became aware they might attend a wedding with DF'd uncle (not apostate-very sad story there) in attendance. Somehow the DF'd dad not an issue... I'm weary.
Certainly can't criticize any of the stupid decisions they are making - well I can criticize my sister for being stupid - just not the organization that makes them do it! Honestly - I am done with them.
I appreciate this site ..... between this and some therapy maybe I'll be okay.... we can only hope.
L