Man and worldly here.
St. Ann (hi!), I believe that the people here mean that they no longer think that any man who approaches them has necessarily wicked intentions. We may want to have sex with you, and we often do, just as women often flirt with us and claim that "a little flirting is OK", but that doesn't mean harming you is all we have in mind.
It is funny that you mention the pizza delivery guy who made a pass at you. Some years ago, I won't say how many, this elderly lady had so many words of praise for the way I looked on my shorts. Women do this things, too.
I wonder how it is possible to make a clear distinction between the desire of a worldly man to sleep with a JW, say, and the desire of a very theocratic elder to sleep with her as well. Perhaps we have to think that Brother Theocratic didn't notice her boobs, and that, while undressing her, he would say "I need to say that I have only consented to be defiled by a woman and give up the gift of singleness, certainly not the finest thing a Christian can do, because of your fine theocratic virtues. I just love the way you read Galatians. You're always the first to answer the questions. No one underlines the Watchtower as graciously as you do. But you finally had me when I learned you had fifteen studies". Yeah, right.