Helping those out, that I helped put in, or just stop meddling?

by undertheradar 14 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • GLTirebiter
    GLTirebiter

    You're not going to change somebody's mind for them, you can only discuss the facts when they're ready to listen. Until then, lead by example. Rediscover your real self and ditch the cult facade. Be a true friend and family member, let unconditional love replace the emotional blackmail practiced by the Watchtower society. Always remember the problem comes from the organization, not the individual members who are its victims. Be patient, and hope for the best.

    GLT

  • Black Sheep
    Black Sheep

    Don't tell them anything, just ask questions. Slowly, slowly, gently, gently.

    Do not expose yourself as a doubter, you "just have a problem getting my head around this doctrine. Help me please?"

    Cheers

    Chris

  • lisavegas420
    lisavegas420

    I agree with much of the above, expecially GLT's. Great post

    Most people don't like to be told THEY are wrong. But if you were to tell them YOU were mistaken about what you had told them before, maybe it won't seem so harsh.

    and always remember..baby steps.

    lisa

  • RR
    RR

    My wife and I studies with a whole family, parents and 4 kids. When we left they left with us. They all became Seventh Day Adventist

  • undertheradar
    undertheradar

    RR - I am shocked. I hope they are better off there than with the witnesses. Have you had any contact with them since?

    Black Sheep - Good tip. I have taken your advice with interesting results. The difficult bit is the patience.

    Farkel and GL Tirebiter - Patience again for when they are ready. It took me about 30 years to finally see the light and all the things my parents warned me about to finally sink in, and then another 10 years to work it all out and do something about it!!!

    lisavegas420 - Good advice. I have made a note of that.

    BabaYaga - Yes thank you. I need to read those books.

    Satanus & AllTimeJeff - You have got me thinking about responsibility, also forgiveness. And the legal obligations of the organisation, the extra responsibility that comes with position, the morality of those responsible. I haven't got Ray Franz's books yet but from the his comments that I have seen I'm sure his books will help.

    Have we been brainwashed? Have we brainwashed others?

    One thing I am learning from you, and the discussions on this site, is the importance of honoring our personal and others emotions and feelings, and not just the factual disscussion side of it.

    Thanks for your comments.

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