Here's some of the published stuff telling the sheeples not to eat with/near a DF:
*** w81 9/15 p. 24 par. 18 Disfellowshiping—How to View It ***
18 Paul wrote: “Quit mixing in company . . . , not even eating with such a man.” (1 Cor. 5:11) A meal is a time of relaxation and socializing. Hence, the Bible here rules out social fellowship, too, such as joining an expelled person in a picnic or party, ball game, trip to the beach or theater, or sitting down to a meal with him. *
Footnote:Our issue of September 1, 1981, discussed 2 Thessalonians 3:14, 15, where the Bible says that it might be necessary to ‘mark’ a Christian who persists in disorderly conduct. He is still a brother and to be admonished as such, but other Christians are to “stop associating with him.” If they should avoid his company on a social basis, much clearer separation should exist in the cases of disfellowshiped or disassociated wrongdoers.
*** w81 9/15 p. 30 par. 23 If a Relative Is Disfellowshiped . . . ***
If a disfellowshiped relative comes to the Kingdom Hall for the wedding, obviously he could not be in the bridal party there or “give away” the bride. What, though, if there is a wedding feast or reception? This can be a happy social occasion, as it was in Cana when Jesus attended. (John 2:1, 2) But will the disfellowshiped relative be allowed to come or even be invited? If he was going to attend, many Christians, relatives or not, might conclude that they should not be there, to eat and associate with him, in view of Paul’s directions at 1 Corinthians 5:11.
*** w97 4/15 p. 25 Weddings That Honor Jehovah ***
Written invitations also help us to avoid the embarrassment of having a disfellowshipped person show up at the reception, for if that happened, many brothers and sisters might choose to leave. (1 Corinthians 5:9-11) If a couple invite unbelieving relatives or acquaintances, these will no doubt be limited in number, giving more importance to those “related to us in the faith.” (Galatians 6:10) Some have chosen to invite worldly acquaintances or unbelieving relatives to the wedding talk rather than to the reception. Why? Well, there have been cases when worldly relatives created such an embarrassing situation at a wedding reception that many brothers and sisters felt that they could not remain.
*** km 8/02 p. 3 par. 3 Display Christian Loyalty When a Relative Is Disfellowshipped ***
3 This means that loyal Christians do not have spiritual fellowship with anyone who has been expelled from the congregation. But more is involved. God’s Word states that we should ‘not even eat with such a man.’ (1 Cor. 5:11) Hence, we also avoid social fellowship with an expelled person. This would rule out joining him in a picnic, party, ball game, or trip to the mall or theater or sitting down to a meal with him either in the home or at a restaurant.
From these quotes, most (or at least many) dubs would be inclined to conclude that eating in the same building/event, as justhuman wouldn't be "socializing with" him. They would eat & shun, but not make a scene like this. However, the elders have received much more instruction from the CO on walking out of wedding receptions or funeral meals if a DF is there. Elduhs are expected to take the lead in making the scene! When those quotes say "might conclude" or "might choose", it means that there is really only one approved conclusion or choise. The dubs are expected to leave. Our CO has been quite clear that those of a family who had attended and ATE at a reception where the DF father was present, are NOT in good standing.
As with the entire disfellowshipping practice, scriptural support is clearly absent in the articles I browsed for those quotes. It's based on one text, not from "the first century Governing Body", nope. It is based on the words of "Circuit Overseer" Paul... the Pharisee.
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