Oompa..you are right.
My husband lost all of his family - in laws, xwife, kids, siblings, parent..as well as every friend he had. It was extremely difficult because even to rent an apartment or get a new job or need a reference for anything, he had nobody to contact. This created more problems on top of all the other issues he was dealing with. His x moved all his belongings to another location - even all the family pictures - so he had no access to one single photo of his kids. He could not access any financial information etc because of the extreme hatred and shunning.
Marriage to a worldly woman later on of course sealed the deal of hatred and shunning forever. We have a letter from an elder in the old congregation attesting to the fact that reinstatement would be refused because he married a worldly woman....so for anybody listening - if you think that JW's won't take negative action or dislike your non JW mate - you should think again.
This is not the same treatment that I received in the non witness world. My family did not shun me for my decision. They did not shun my husband. My ex sister in law still emails me and we are on great terms. Employers had no problem with me. My family's acceptance of my husband into the fold, was based on how I was treated...not by his religion. Their treatment of me in my decisions is based on their concern, respect and love for me. Two very different ways of handling the situation and the lives of their family member.
The very idea that a separated and then divorced JW can be accused of adultery when they remarry is ludicrous at the very least and pathetic at most. How juvenile and how judgemental..perhaps the society would be better off dealing with some real issues within the ranks...like lack of forgiveness and compassion...instead of encouraging this kind of persecution and hatred. Might make them all happier people. sammieswife.
