First off, welcome to the board, Praying4Justice. You'd better keep on praying; I don't know when true justice will hit these fools, but for what it's worth, I'll join you...
Now, let's get to your queries....
Please tell me what the roles are exactly for these elders, young or otherwise, when it comes to counseling. Do elders ever counsel one-on-one with women or does there always have to be at least 2 elders present?
No, there will be two of them there. There will always be two, even when it's not a woman, mainly because with two witnesses to any incriminating statement, they can proceed with the disfellowshipping committee.
Does each congregation have periodic counseling sessions with the members for the sole purpose of seeing if anyone will confess any sins? I cringe with the thought that my daughter might get called in for a special counseling session just for the purpose of trying to get personal information from her.
Yes, they could instigate a witchhunt if the numbers are down, just to see who's "blocking the holy spirit," as if you were some sort of point guard swatting a shot. But this is generally rare. If you're staying out of trouble, and don't start using your brain to note the inconsistencies, nothing should happen.
If there are only two elders grilling your kid, this is when they want to see if she'll slip up and say something incriminating. If there are three elders, watch out, because then it's a real kangaroo court trial with real consequences, most likely disfellowshipping. The first is called just a meeting, the second is a "judicial committee."
They know what I think about them because I personally went to the Kingdom Hall to talk with the elders to let them know I'm on to them and that I will never give up on my daughter. I know when my daughter spends time with her family (who are not JWs), they don't like it and I'm sure that they ask her questions when she gets back.
Someone, please tell me how the counseling sessions are conducted.
Thanks
Has your daughter been showing signs of subversion? Because they might suspect her of "apostasy"--stemming from you--this is what they will do: They will ask her to meet them upstairs to innocently chat about what's going on. No matter how they get to it, all they want to know is, "Do you think Jehovah operates through the Faithful and Discreet Slave (aka the Governing Body) as part of his universal organization?"
If she answers yes, they will ask her to go against your wishes and continue associating and studying with them. They will prescribe a regimen of more cult literature, more praying, more field service, and a "Bible Study" with an older sister, possibly of your daughter's choice.
If she answers no, then they've got evidence of her corrupting wickedness and can therefore initiate the Kangaroo Court to officiate the start of the shunning by congregation members, friends, and non-resident family members.
