I haven't read all the replies but I had to jump in on this. Speaking from the position of an unattractive person formerly seriously overweight, I can say that attitude has a lot to do with it. As one poster said: "Hey, any guy who is well groomed (is clean, smells good and actually clips his toenails), has a good personality and confidence, has some ambition, genuinely likes and respects the feminine gender and knows how to treat them and get along with them, has a chance." The same is true for women - even unattractive women can find partners if they are clean and neat, smell good, well dressed, intelligent and fun to be with. Desperate isn't attractive, so men and women in this position should, as another poster said, get off their couches and go out and get involved with something - habitat for humanity maybe, the local homeless charities, volunteer somewhere fun like the local zoo or theater or museum.
No outlet for unattractive men in this society...
by Gregor 70 Replies latest jw friends
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Hortensia
as for legalizing prostitution, I agree it should be done, but not naively. There are a lot of problems that go along with prostitution, such as human slavery, disease, drug abuse, pimping, extortion, violence, exploitation that need to be addressed also, and just legalizing prostitution isn't going to solve those other problems. I do agree that the prohibitions put on sex by law, because of religion, create more problems than they solve and I think the government ought to get out of people's bedrooms. But...there are some serious problems out there in the world of prostitution that need to be addressed.
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kwintestal
Isn't that what jwsingles.com is for? The WT runs that site, don't they?
Kwin
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lola28
If society would accept legal, licensed sex for money it would be a small step toward relieving the loneliness
I don't think sex is a cure for loneliness, sex will never be enough for someone who really just wants to have a partner to share life with.
Lola ( who is really happy right this second that she is not a short man but rather a short girl with good boobs, because girls with boobs will never have a problem getting laid)
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nvrgnbk
Sex without intimacy is sad.
Intimacy is more satisfying and rewarding than sex alone.
Intimacy without sex is difficult to achieve and maintain.
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JH
Happiness has to come from within.
Well said Finally Free.
People that are happy generate vibes that other people feel, and it creates success.
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greendawn
In this day and age western society doesn't frown on men having pre marital sex even with prostitutes except perhaps in some isolated and conservative communities here and there. I don't think that for a woman to have sex with hundreds or thousands of men with or without a fee is something natural and healthy for her emotions.
Beauty is not the same for men as with women the latter being very obsessed by and apprehensive about the whole issue. Men or at least mature men have no time to waste on such childish concerns. But being obese is not being ugly it is in fact being diseased something that can fortunately be corrected with the right diet.
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jaguarbass
Society may frown on prostitution, but in Florida we have escorts. They'll come right to your uncles door. Not much difference, that I can tell. Just the spelling and pronuciation.
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=female+escorts%2C+florida&btnG=Google+Search
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found-my-way
Sex without intimacy is sad.
Intimacy is more satisfying and rewarding than sex alone.
Intimacy without sex is difficult to achieve and maintain.
Nvr, wise words....and I 100% agree with them....
Here is what I thought after reading your statements...
Some men are looking for sex without the commitment...and they want to avoid intimacy....so paying for a female companion would be the choice made by a man with that frame of mind...
(if prostitution was regulated it would be safer for both parties, that is why it is regulated in the red light districts in Europe...since prostitution is the oldest occupation, we will always have prostitutes / escorts in our society, and that they serve a purpose, so why not legalize it? It will go on despite it being illegal) (nvr, I'm not saying that you are against prostitution, I dont know if you are or not, I am just stating my two cents)
The less attractive men who are looking for intimacy with another woman, will definitely not find this by paying for sex...they will always feel empty....hopefully they find a partner that gives back to the relationship what they put in.
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asleif_dufansdottir
I have known a few guys in my life who were very open about having used prostitutes to take care of their "needs". Without exception, they had neither a 'normal' view of women or of sex. They saw all women, basically, as prostitutes...that sex was *always* in some way a financial transaction, and that *all* women had sex for money. Basically, they didn't really like women much.
I can't say whether their visits to prostitutes were the cause or the effect. But something was wrong somewhere.