Simple life, which is better?

by avidbiblereader 16 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • avidbiblereader
    avidbiblereader

    Welcome LynnA, sorry to hear about all your debt and problems that you inherited from your ex, glad that your surgeries went well and that things are getting brighter for you, we hope to hear more of you on the forum and thanks for sharing.

    abr

  • anewme
    anewme

    I love the simple life, always have. And I think it is very good to often review all the simple things in your life you are very grateful for because the simple sweet precious things can become lost and you may not get them back.......time spent with children or a loving spouse or friend.........an occasion to enjoy the sunshine........a walk together on a lovely day............sitting by the fire.............singing together in a car................throwing the ball with your canine pal............inviting a friend in who stops by........all these things are small and seemingly insignificant at the time and easily put off due to being too busy. But when you look back at life these are the times your heart will crave to revisit .....not the sales.....not the jobs.......not the gym........not the things.....but the times with loved ones.


    Anewme

  • Apostate Kate
    Apostate Kate

    Welcome Lynn.

    I too went through something similar and ended up in 1998, with bills, homeless, broke, disabled and had my car repossesed. My ex filed electonically and spent my tax return on his back taxes without my permission, and even my (not his) my children's SSI money that I didn't even know I was getting for several months.

    It took me several years to get back on my feet with God's blessings. My home was my first sancuary from the storms of life and all the hungry wolves. It is a small cabin/house on some acreage in an area that nobody was intersted in at the time. It has since quadrupled in value.

    After that I did not even date for 6 years. When I did meet someone and remarry I kept my own name, my own accounts, and refuse to comingle anything. He bought into ownership in my home by paying off a chunk on the mortgage, but his name is not on it.

    So far he has added to the value by building on but has an issue finishing what he starts so I have to remind him. He would have debt but I learned the hard way when he says it's ok I'll pay it off next month that it really means, I'll not pay it off next month and I'll give you as many excuses as I think you will need.

  • daystar
    daystar

    I think this skit from SNL says it all:

    Don't Buy Stuff you Cannot Afford! - http://www.pistolwimp.com/media/41738/

  • lonelysheep
    lonelysheep

    I don't know. Living in debt is the only way I've ever lived.

  • Snoozy
    Snoozy

    I remember when I was working (I'm retired on a fixed income now) how awful it felt to be a slave to my job. Having to take all the Bull....from other workers and customers just because I HAD to work!

    It's a terrible thing to feel and I would definately vote for the simple life. Don't worry about keeping up with the Jones..one week without a job and they will probably be on the streets!

    If someone is really deep in debt I would seek out a debt (credit)counselor from the state.They charge according to your income. They can work with your debtors to lower or wipe out interest and work out a payment plan for you.

    Seems like when you don't have a lot of debt you can hold your head up just a little higher..

    If you find you just really want something like a boat or a new car..rent one for a while..just as much fun..but you won't have the headache of a long payment schedule where most of your payment goes towards interest and the object isn't worth nearly as much as you still owe on the loan in a few years.

    I keep trying to tell my son that but he keeps falling into that trap. He wants a new car before the old one is paid for and ends up refinancing the old loan with the new one. He is really just working to pay the interest on something that isn't worth what he owes!

    Who wants to work just to pay interest on all those loans..no wonder people never get ahead..

    Snoozy..

    EDITED to add..why is it underlining the word loan? Then when you click on it an ad for student loans comes up? WASSUP?OK..now that I have edited it the line went away...I'm so confused.

  • sinis
    sinis

    As I become older, "less becomes more". I see people all around me going into debt up to their eyeballs, with little chance of probably ever paying it off. Not only that, but with more "stuff" comes more time to maintain more "stuff". Which means you have to work more to pay for this "stuff". Very evil cycle that can only run you into the ground. Time is a commodity that can never be purchased, and can never be refunded. In my mind, simple is more.

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