There is an excellent book to read
"Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie
There was something she said that stuck with me and I think it fits not only in relationships but in organized religion to.
She said: "Codependent people ENABLE the inappropriate behavior"
How true that rang for me. I did truly enable inappropriate behavior in my marriage. I enable inappropriate behavior from my family and kingdomhall when they disfellowshiped me. In other wards.. it can't happen unless... you can't allow them to hurt you... unless you enable it.
gold_morning