One more down the drain-marriage-divorce

sspo

I mentioned in the past that my wife turned me in for apostasy and because of it she filed for separation ( she is too holy and spiritual to file for divorce) .She came home this afternoon and started packing a few things to move to an apartment.

I am still going to meetings but it is not enough for her, i reminded her of 1 Cor 7 where it talks about a wife not leaving an unbeleiver as long as he is willing to stay with her but she says that does not apply to apostasy. Go figure!

She is free to worship her God, i'm not stopping her but she has been blessed by the powerful GB who the witnesses exalts above GOD himself that tells them they have the right to leave a mate if it is spiritual endangerment.

I know it is not the first time it has happened, many of you have gone thru the same thing but it sure hurts losing your mate after almost 27 years.

serendipity

((( sspo))) I'm sorry you're having to go through this as well. Maybe once she lives on her own, she will appreciate what she had and will be willing to overlook your 'apostasy'. Don't give up on her just yet!

looking_glass

Sorry to hear about the issues you are going thru. I hope they either resolve or you are able to make your own resolution about them. Peace L_G

anewme

Serendipity is right Sspo.

She may see the picture differently after moving out.

Hope the two of you can keep talking about your marriage.

But if the worse happens, know this: many of us have gone through the divorce process and now are smelling roses!
My ex was my very best friend and I thought nothing would separate us! Wrong! The Watchtower is a powerful cult. If she persists in her high road of righteousness, then move on. Who needs that?
Love sometimes is tested. Hers didnt pass the test then.

Go find someone who loves you for who you are, you inside.

Best wishes,

Anewme

sspo

No, i lost hope completely because the damn watchtower comes before everyone else.

I reminded my wife that there are thousands of households where only one mate serves God but she feels that living with apostate is like having Satan inside the house.

Interestingly this " satanic man" of hers took care of her for 26 years, she never had to go outside the house and work and lived a good life.

Life goes on and it is encouraging to know that in the long run my life will be better not having the watchtower coming between mates

moshe

it talks about a wife not leaving an unbeleiver as long as he is willing to stay with her but she says that does not apply to apostasy.

Sorry to hear about your bad luck, Chap. Same thing happened to me in 1989- you are a victim of "Absolute Spitritual Endangerment"- This teaching first appeared in the Watchtower in 1965 and was rehashed again , around 1988-89. It might also have been covered in a more current WT article. Basically, your wife can get a divorce because you are having a bad spiritual influence on her. The Society has all but admitted that an ex-JW spouse who has knowledge of WT Society coverups, lies and false prophecies will ultimately convince a Jehovah's Witness spouse to quit going to the KH, too.

Of, course , the JW spouse seldom figures this out. Your wife will feel very self righteous at first after the divorce and will be a hero in the KH. Later, your wife will realize that she was manipulated by the elders and KH into a divorce that she didn't really want. Unhappiness and depression is the next stage. If your ex-wife tries to engage in any social activities outside the approved KH ones or complains to the elders about what happened, then she will find herself marked and become isolated even more. In the end she will figure out that you were right all along- but by then it's usually too late to reconcile with their former spouse.

Siddhashunyata

Your experience ,as you relate it, is a mirror image of my own. My marriage was 28 years. Same experience, hard to watch it happen especially if you love your wife. One point that may help you. There is a weakness in your wife's character otherwise she would not be blind to all you have been and are. My best to you.

One more down the drain-marriage-divorce

sspo

serendipity

looking_glass

anewme

sspo

moshe

Siddhashunyata

purplesofa

HadEnuf

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