Posts by Mystla

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What if....?

by coolhandluke in

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as always when talking to my brother i come to a higher state of awareness.

at eight years my senior, he challenges and prods me.

i need that from time to time to keep me honest.

I don't know your mother (obviously) but I do know mine. She is miserable. She wallows in guilt over not being able to "do more in the truth" and she exhausted physically from trying to work a regular job and keep her janitorial accounts in order to pay taxes she got behind on when she was pioneering. She has no retirement plan. She's 57 with no health plan.

The "truth" is her crutch. Would she be happier without it? I honestly think she would, but the road she would have to take to get mentaly free of the jws would be long and hard, very hard.

My mom is also a drama queen.. so maybe she likes the guilt and misery and poverty... who knows?

I'm not going to go out of my way to "get her out" but if I ever see a chink in the armor I will exploit it and see what happens.

Misty

57

True Love in relationships

by captainl in

i think that true love is only found through jehovah.

i have had relationships in the world and they have never worked out.

but i will be searching for true love with a woman that also loves jehovah.

Mystla

Until he does some troll-like stirring up of trouble I say we treat him like a person.

I've been the victim of trolls in the past and I'm all for rootin em out from the start, but I'm also leery of pointing fingers.. he hasn't misbehaved, wait until he does to start flinging mud.... trolls love that.

Misty

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True Love in relationships

by captainl in

i think that true love is only found through jehovah.

i have had relationships in the world and they have never worked out.

but i will be searching for true love with a woman that also loves jehovah.

Mystla

Lol, no, they didn't tell me... and I learned a valuable lesson.. Try the shoes on before you buy them!!

Misty

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True Love in relationships

by captainl in

i think that true love is only found through jehovah.

i have had relationships in the world and they have never worked out.

but i will be searching for true love with a woman that also loves jehovah.

Mystla

I found true love after I left the witnesses.. I was married to the most selfish lazy man you can imagine while I was a JW. Turns out he's gay.. the elders told him to "settle down with a nice witness girl and "those feelings" would go away" Guess what guys.. they didn't!! I was the most confused niave little witness girl you could imagine But I got over it and now I have a fabulous life with a great man (who is verafiably hetro)

Life is wonderful!

Misty

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anyone ever had a pet custody battle in a divorce

by dawgfan in

i feel somewhat ridiculous.

i know that a dog is not the same as a child but even my soon to be ex has conceeded on alot of points in the divorce papers, we cannot agree on who gets custody of the dog.

i've always had dogs when i was growing up, but i really love this dog that we have.

Mystla

The minute my back was turned my ex took my dog to the pound.. fortunatly I found out about it and rescued him in time. I was supposed to get the dog when I found a place that allowed pets.. but he couldn't even wait that long.. all he had to do was call me and I would have worked something out (as it was my sister took the dog after I rescued him until I found a place) Teh dog ended up with kennel cough from being in that awful place...

People can be so cruel, using innocent pets to hurt someone else.

Misty

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Teenagers 1st X-mas. How do I explain?

by miss_fortunate_one in

if any of you have read my previous posts, you have seen that after 15 years of jh life, my kids have come to live with me.

i myself am not a christian, i have another faith but, i follow the traditions of christmas along with my family.

now that my kids are with me, i am having a hard time trying to tell them what christmas is all about.

Mystla

I wouldn't make too big a deal out of telling them the "meaning" of christmas.. just make sure they understand it's about joy and having fun, let them experience it and they will ask you if they want to know more.. then you can get deeper with them. It sounds like you are already letting them figure out on their own how much participation they want to have, I think that is the best approach

I am so happy for you that you have them with you, they are in for a lot of surprises and a lot of fun making up for lost time.

Misty

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Inconsistency of 2 Witness rule

by wozadummy in

i want to put this out for comment and also direct this to lurker jw's as something to think about.

witnesses have the 2 witness rule to prove whether a jw pedophile,molester,drunkard beater etc is guilty or not.

this protects the perpetrator by the perp simply saying to themself that they have sought gods forgiveness personally ,so they reason in their minds it's ok to lie about their guilt to the elders and therefore they get off the hook.

Mystla

My understanding was that it only took one ELDER to witness something, but the r&f needed two witnesses.. If an elder sees it.. it's proof, but if someone tells an elder they need a second witness. So if pedophiles only molested elders they wouldn't need a second witness

I may have completely misunderstood how it worked, but that was the impression I had.

Misty

14

A 'pair' of socks, OK. But why a 'pair' of pants?

by Gregor in

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wonder why certain garments are referred to in the plural, pants, underwear, trousers?

why not a pair of shirts?

"i put on a fresh pair of shirts this morning" or why not say "i spilled coffee on my pant and i need to change it".

Mystla

my 14-year-old asked me why

I think, Gregor, that the point is that you think like a 14yo

Young at heart and mind?

Misty

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My Mini Van bit the dust!

by lovelylil in

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i had some car drama over the weekend.

on friday i picked up two of my son's friends to come over and do a school project with him.

anyway on the way home my transmission starts acting crazy.

Mystla

My trany went out a couple years ago.. I was in the middle of moving. I had spent the night at the new place the night before and left the dog there while I returned for another load.. it was about 3 hours away. I spent all day getting the last bits out of the house and cleaning, it was midnight by the time I headed out. I only got a couple miles, the transmission locked up tight while I was doing 40.. I skidded sideways down the road.. yikes. It's fortunate that it was so late at night, this was a very busy road during the day.. so there I am, in the road, locked up tight.. there is no moving this car! I got out and stood on the sidewalk to call a towtruck (I didn't want to be in the car if it got hit) While I was waiting a very strange guy came along.. then another.. then another.. I have never been so glad to see a cop in my entire life! He pulled up and parked with his lights on so no one would hit my car, then waited with me for the tow truck...

So now I am back at the old house with my broken car and my hubbys car which hadn't been started in a year. Battery was dead in it.. whats a girl to do? (battery was dead on my car, too, by this time.. ) It's about 2 am by this point. I had to wait til morning to get someone to jump the Brat (hubby's car is a subaru Brat) and there wasn't any one I could call even then to do it for me. So, what did I do? I went across the street to the halfway house and asked the dozen or so guys who answered the door if they would do it.. they were more than happy to help

So I'm finally off.. exhausted, having only caught a few winks on the floor of my empty house, driving a car I haven't driven before... which had problems of it's own.. my dog is still locked inside my new house (since 6am the previous day) That was a drive I'll never forget. By the time I let my dog out he had been inside for 30 hours.. he is soooo good, there were no piles or puddles in the house! He peed for about an hour though. poor guy.

Eventually my dad replaced the trany in my car and discovered that when I had had the oil changed, a short while before it went out, someone had fiddled with the trany's fluid plug and it was dried out and that's why it seized up. Car is still running, has 340,000 miles on it

Hubby was in Alaska for his brother's wedding during this fiasco.. he felt so bad that I had gone through that with out him.

I hate car trouble!! I tend to take it for granted that my car will run forever (it practically has already) and I hate it when something goes wrong.. but I've learned a lot about cars from working on this one (change the oil my own damn self from now on!!) I dread the day I have to get a new one.

Misty

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If you could have anything you want, live anyway you want, but............

by 5go in

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if you could have anything you want, live anyway you want, but............. .

you have to give up your body ( ghost in the shell , virtual reality ) and live in a computer world would you do it.. .

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Mystla

You guys need to go out and rent Tron or The Matrix

If virtual reality felt as real as reality.. maybe.. unless you could still get sick (virus?) It would be kinda like living on the holo deck in star trek, it would all look and feel real, but YOU would know it wasn't. I'm not sure I could get past that.

If it was like The Matrix.. maybe if I didn't know it wasn't reality... there is a good example of the virtual being much easier to live in than the real.

What was it Cypher said? Something along the lines of "Ignorance is bliss, plug me back in"

Misty