Heartafire, a few years before my husband and I left that cult, it was his brother who came over to our home, and informed us that we and our children would die at Armageddon. Now mind you, I was still going to the meetings, and going out in service (when I could find the time), and hadn't even thought about leaving. His wife, my own sister, the one I mentioned that was at the family reunion, she would always make stuff up about my family and I, just to make herself look good with our parents. In case it's a little confusing, but my husband's brother is married to my sister. When we left that cult, those were the type of people we left behind. It's been almost 16 years since I last saw those people, 16 years too soon in my book. I can only picture the outrageous stories she is going to spread after today.
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What should I do?
by Tameria2001 inhello everyone, it's been quite a while since i was last on this forum.
originally i was under a different user name, but lost all that information when i moved to a different state.
anyways, i had left the jws back in 2001, after being raised up in it most of my childhood life.
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What should I do?
by Tameria2001 inhello everyone, it's been quite a while since i was last on this forum.
originally i was under a different user name, but lost all that information when i moved to a different state.
anyways, i had left the jws back in 2001, after being raised up in it most of my childhood life.
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I just wanted to say thank you for all your replies. My family and I did attend the family reunion, and as the JW relatives had planned, showed up late, assuming that we would be gone by the time they arrived. One of them pulled my husband aside as asked for us to leave. My husband's reply to him was rolling his eyes, and said, "Yea, what ever. We'll leave when were good and ready, and not when you say so." There was an F bomb placed in there as well.
Anyways I did see the woman who use to be my biological sister there as well. But I made sure that I was totally ignoring her, I know that this would burn her to no end, because she was the one who is suppose to do the shunning. There was no love loss in the beginning, because I absolutely can not stand the site of her, even when back when I was still a JW.
The family reunion went off really well, and I got to see family members that I hadn't seen in years. I'm thinking that the relative that originally asked us to leave early in a message was only doing that, so to convince the JW relatives that we would not be there by the time they arrived. But it still ticked me off, her even bringing this up, but that's under the bridge now.
As far as doing any anti witnessing, I never had to do this, because most of the family (who are not JWs) have already seen first hand the ugly side to those people. Their actions towards us, back when we first left, acatually prevented several relatives from evening joining that cult. I did think it was pretty funny how my husband handled his brother though. He a very blunt man, and he doesn't care who he says it to, well except for me, because he doesn't want like seeing my red hair flair towards him. lol
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What should I do?
by Tameria2001 inhello everyone, it's been quite a while since i was last on this forum.
originally i was under a different user name, but lost all that information when i moved to a different state.
anyways, i had left the jws back in 2001, after being raised up in it most of my childhood life.
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Hello everyone, it's been quite a while since I was last on this forum. Originally I was under a different user name, but lost all that information when I moved to a different state. Anyways, I had left the JWs back in 2001, after being raised up in it most of my childhood life. I don't know if they still use this term, but back then my husband and I sent in our dissociation letters. At the time I had done quite a bit of research to make sure I was making the right decision, after all quite a few of both my husband's and myself, our relatives are JWs. As a result of our decision, our children were able to grow up to be true to who they really are. They are both two well adjusted young men who are very happy with their lives, who haven't had to deal with the heartache of being cut off from their loved ones. They were quite young when we came to this decision. Those relatives are nothing but strangers to them.
Anyways, most of the time I'm perfectly fine, but there are times such as today, I feel that those PEOPLE love poking at wounds that have long since closed. At the moment it feels more like they are poking a bear with a stick, and me being the bear, a very grumpy bear, one that is just waking up from it's hibernation. Not to go into too much detail, but what is going on, we are having a family reunion. Most of those attending will be non-JWs, but they are jumping though hoops for the few JW relatives that are going to be there. I was informed just the day before this was to take place, that for a couple of hours of the reunion, we are allowed to be there, and then we have to leave. So the JW relatives won't throw a stink and make a big scene, like they did the last time. At the moment I'm in half a mind to not even bother, yet on the other hand I have always refused to play by their (JW) games.
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Funeral this Saturday, looking for suggestions
by Tameria2001 inmy husband will be going (unless he has to work) to his jw aunt's funeral this coming saturday (6-29-13).
he will be riding up with one of his other aunts (not a witness).
i refuse to go because i just hate those people that much, that if it were my mom's funeral i still would not go.
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My husband will be going (unless he has to work) to his JW aunt's funeral this coming Saturday (6-29-13). He will be riding up with one of his other aunts (not a witness). I refuse to go because I just hate those people that much, that if it were my mom's funeral I still would not go. He understands my reason for not going, and he is completely ok with it.
This will be his first JW funeral to attend since he left that cult, and there will be quite a few of his JW relatives there. Another aunt (also not a JW) told him that she has his back and that he can sit with her during the funeral, which will be held at the kingdom hall. I have read complete horror stories of those who were no longer JWs and their trials of dealing with the JWs, during their time of grief.
He is not quiet sure on what to expect, so I am asking for him to you all. He is looking for suggestion on what to do, or to even deal with "those" people. He was completely shocked this evening when his brother actually called him and told him about the funeral earlier this evening. He has not spoken to his brother in over 10 years. It was a short converation, just basically telling him the address of the congeration where the funeral is going to be at. Apparently they built a new kingdom hall three years ago.
If any respond to this post, he will be reading them. The only reason he does not ask himself, is that he does not deal with the internet, or typing at a keyboard. If he tried to type this out, it would take him nearly a whole day. Thank you, oh yes, my husband's name is David.
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I make a vow 2015 will be my last DC to attend ever !!!
by 5go ineven then it will be just be a sunday to see if the fall off come true, or not.. heck this year and next will probally just enough to make it look like i showed up for it.
thankfully i live around the city it's held in i so it's not a huge sacrafice..
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My very last convention was in 1994. I could not afford to go to anymore after that. That year my car broke down on the way home, and then some woman, who was not paying attention, backed into my car and wrecked it. I was also just to afraid to go on a trip after that. Now if someone says, about how that was a long time ago. Well a few years later I attempted to go on a trip that was out of town. Guess what, my truck broke down. The transmission went out, and again I was stranded. Never again will I ever go on a trip out of town.
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Smurf WArs
by snare&racket ingrowing up in the uk we didnt hear any stories about smurfs being demonic or evil etc, i watched the smurfs without a bad consciense.. what were the stories?
the rules and the reasons why?
how widespread was this crazy idea?.
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Snare&racket.... If it was not real and only in my mind, then why did they physically try to cause the vehicle I was in to crash? And in the case of the second time to actually crash. I was not the driver either.
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Smurf WArs
by snare&racket ingrowing up in the uk we didnt hear any stories about smurfs being demonic or evil etc, i watched the smurfs without a bad consciense.. what were the stories?
the rules and the reasons why?
how widespread was this crazy idea?.
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Snare&Racket....You asked me how many demons have I seen and interacted with, right off the top I can tell you that there were two different demons whom I have interacted with, and both times they tried to kill me. Where I saw them was in the the parking lots of two different kingdoms halls. My husband was driving both times, and I was in the front passenger seat. The first time was at a congeration in Missouri. It was on a Sunday morning, during one of their meetings. Outside in the parking lot I could see a whole host of demons dancing around in the parking lot around the cars. One happen to notice that I was looking straight at it, and faster than I could blink my eyes he was over next to my truck, grabbed the steering will and tried to cause an accident.
The second time, about 4 years later, was also in the parking lot of another congeration in Arkansas, but this time it was on a Saturday, and there were a few cars in the parking lot. Again I noticed this and again one of those creatures saw me looking at it. This time around it did something to my back wheel, and ripped out park of the rubber. It was enough to cause my husband to loose control over the Ford Bronco. We happened to slam into some barrels that was a barrer to a bridge.
Both time the things I saw looked like reptilian, with long skinny legs, arms, and fingers, and very ugly. The only reason I call them demons is that as soon as they saw me, besides doing what they did, they also vanished to where I could not see them.
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Smurf WArs
by snare&racket ingrowing up in the uk we didnt hear any stories about smurfs being demonic or evil etc, i watched the smurfs without a bad consciense.. what were the stories?
the rules and the reasons why?
how widespread was this crazy idea?.
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I was a teen at the time and never had any Smurf items, but my younger sister sure did. She had a doll, a drinking glass, and a pair of slippers. She even had them for quite a while with no problems. Then all of a sudden the Watchtower came out about something on how they are demonic. I can tell you one thing, when it comes to supernatural stuff I'm a little more sensitive with it. I'm not going to go into all the details, but if there is a spirit around I can sense it. Anyways, back to my sister's Smurf items, until the Watchtower actually came out about it there was not any problems with "demonic" activities, and I use that world very loosely. All of a sudden one day, after a talk was given, my sister's Smurf glass fell and broke. There was nothing "supernatural" about it, it fell and it broke, nothing more or less. With just hearing that talk only a few days earlier, mom got it in her head that the "brothers" must be correct, and she threw away all my sister's Smurf items. The story of the broken glass took off like wild fire, and slightly changed to fit, what the Watchtower had been saying was true. I was there the day that glass was broken, and I can tell you that there was no "demonic" activities going on that day.
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Are you really an Apostate, according to the WT ?
by Phizzy inperusing the coverage of the 2013 dc spewings about apostates, the wt claims that apostates are "liars" and speak "twisted things".
this is their definition of apostates.. now, the reality is that sites such as paul's excellent jwfacts.com, books like coc and isocf, by ray franz, the works of olaf jonsson, penton and others, all write what is true !.
we are careful on here to present that which is true, at least i hope we are !.
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I was called an Apostate once by my brother-in-law. My only crime was doing research on the Watchtower, only using all their past publications. I was not sharing any of this information with anyone but my husband. The only reason why he found out was, he popped over for a "visit" one day, and I did not have time to hide the stuff.
When he called me a stupid woman and an apostate, my husband lost it and told him, "Then the Watchtower must be an Apostate with God", because I was using only their literature. I was only using the internet as a guide on where and what to look for, pages and paragraphs, and which publication to look in. When my husband told him that, all of a sudden my brother-in-law went silent, and that was the end of that. One thing a person does not do is to attack me like that, or my dear hubby will go off on them. He nearly beat the snot out of his brother that very night. The only thing stopping him was there were about 4 police officers right outside. They were there because our next door neighbor was fighting again. This all went down at 1 am, yes, that bozo would come over for visits at weird hours.
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Moving out, away and starting a new post JW life
by OneDayillBeFree inrecently at my last meeting, an older brother "in good standing" got disfellowshipped.. sitting only two seats away from him, i saw as he burst into tears as lifelong friends and family began their shunning and immediate gossip in the form of whispers came up from above the brothers and sisters in the kingdom hall.
i felt like giving him a hug and telling him that it was going to be okay and that whatever the reason for his disfellowshipment was, it didnt matter and that god still loved him but before i could muscle up enough courage to do so, he stood up in tears and left.. i shed a few silent tears for him.
i didn't see anyone else do the same.. it was at that moment that i realized without a doubt that living this way is just not worth it at all.. so i've thought about it long and hard and now i just want to move far away and just start new again.
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When I left the JWs, I did not move away at first. Due to things out of my control, I did end up moving to another state. After moving here, I was able to buy a home. Because I was so sick of the bull that my JW relatives were still puting me through, I decided not to forward my mail. The place I am living at, no one knows my history with the Watchotwer, except for a few of my non-JW relatives. The part I love the most is that I no longer get dirty looks from the JWs, nor watch them cross the street or turn around when they see me coming. That being because if any JW does run into me, they don't know my history with them.
When I bought my home back in 2008 it was like a fresh start for me, but it did take time to get there. I left the JWs back in 2001.