Sirona,
The way things are to WHOM? We all experience things differently and see life differently. Reality is different from person to person. So I expect you might mean "the way things are" for you?
Just had to put in that you are SO damn cool. You've pretty much said everything I would've said myself, and the more I see of "my people" , the more convinced I am that Pagans are born, not made. It's not about looking for a religion: it's finding a name for what you believe.
Just out of curiosity, do you end up making accidental connections with other Pagans semi-frequently, too, in places where you're not looking for them or expecting to find them? Maybe it's just my experience, but it seems like we tend to be drawn to each other.
*Rochelle.
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"I can teach you how to bottle fame, brew glory, even stopper death -- if you aren't as big a bunch of dunderheads as I usually have to teach."
-- Professor Severus Snape, Harry Potter and the Sorceror's Stone.