Posts by Prisca

i am writing this thread because i hope it fosters some positive communication although i may end up being deleted for it.. to start with a discliamer: i am no fan of stinkypantz posts - they just aren't that interesting to me.. that being said i now see sp was deleted.

my first reaction to that was anger.

sp posted stuff about being close to a nervous breakdown, wishing she could just "disappear" etc....she is obviously someone in pain right now.. we have been constantly censured about how this is a place of healing and we need to keep it that way for people who need healing, support and comfort.. so i only hope sp has been "temporarily suspended" (not deleted) for her own good and no because she pissed off some moderator.

Prisca

You know, simon, I understand your frustration with seeing people like me say that. I don't want to add to your frustration - you are gracious enough to let me post here and I appreciate that.
But there is an old corny saying: "where there is smoke there is fire". If posters feel afraid to post stuff because we am on your shitlist then there is something there:
We have seen how other posters have "disappeared into the night".
We have experienced this feeling - therefore it is real to us.

You come across as seeming to think everyone wants to manipulate you or take advantage - when in truth we don't. Why do you always see the bad in me? I feel that no matter what I ever did simon - you would always dislike me and I will always have to be on guard around you! Perhaps its me - but then I should feel that way around everyone else and I don't. Perhaps I have that feeling because you are empowered....truthfully that is probably a large part of it. But you as someone who has chosen to run a board of healing needs to know that's how many of us feel. We might have inclination to that feeling....but instead of trying to reassure us you threaten us (sorry I will get off my soap box in a minute) but posters are constantly told "quit whining" or else!!

Simon, I really like you - I did from the start when we used to IM each other. Somewhere something went south...if it is from my side I want to say I am truly sorry. I want your site to succeed too - but that's why I feel it is important to give you this feedback. It would be very easy for me to say WTF and just walk away - but you have something special here - please from the bottom of my heart I implore you to look inward and see if there is something you can change - even if it is just the "perception of Simon".

Well said Donkey. I'd like to add my voice to these sentiments too.

Simon, I DON'T HATE YOU but please take a look at what people are saying, and don't judge us unfairly for daring to speak our minds.

As Donkey says, it could be very easy to just walk away and not care - but it's because we do care about this board that we are saying this.

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"Nervous Breakdown"

by StinkyPantz in

what is it exactly?

how do you know if you are having one?

what do you do about it?

Prisca

Oh c'mon Simon, in your first post on this thread it was obvious you were referring to an old thread in which SP had asked a question, and in that thread you interpreted it to mean that she was referring to the board (as if everything we do has to revolve around this place) and made a big deal over it.

So you replied to her on this thread, based on your previous history with Stinky, without showing any empathy or compassion for a hurting young woman.

You don't have to go out of your way to put a negative interpretation on everything I write.

You can say that again.

How would you feel if I did the same to you?

You have done, on plenty of occasions. How about that time in chat when Valis made death threats towards me, and you ignored him, yet when I said something in reaction to what Valis had just said, you told me to "shut up"?

I'm yet to receive an apology from you or Valis for the verbal abuse I encountered from both of you.

I think you have posted plenty more stuff that could be interpreted that way.

You can "think" whatever you like, but your imagination doesn't mean things in your head are true.

I did not post anything critical or insulting - just factual and useful.

Oh, suuuuuure they were "factual" - just as factual as the information you hand out to your clients. But this isn't an IT department, and we are dealing with real people with real emotions. By the way you've treated SP over the past few months it's obvious you have no idea how to deal empathetically with people with emotional problems, especially women. Intelligent women at that.

You should try it one day. The batteries for your alternate reality must be running out now.

Can I borrow yours?

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"Nervous Breakdown"

by StinkyPantz in

what is it exactly?

how do you know if you are having one?

what do you do about it?

Prisca

Well, J2L, how do you interpret Simon's comments, not just on this thread but Donkey's "Sombody's Hurting" thread as well?

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Someone is hurting

by donkey in

jw
friends

i am writing this thread because i hope it fosters some positive communication although i may end up being deleted for it.. to start with a discliamer: i am no fan of stinkypantz posts - they just aren't that interesting to me.. that being said i now see sp was deleted.

my first reaction to that was anger.

sp posted stuff about being close to a nervous breakdown, wishing she could just "disappear" etc....she is obviously someone in pain right now.. we have been constantly censured about how this is a place of healing and we need to keep it that way for people who need healing, support and comfort.. so i only hope sp has been "temporarily suspended" (not deleted) for her own good and no because she pissed off some moderator.

Prisca

Grrrrrr......

Y'know, I've deliberately kept away from both of these boards because of the events of the past few weeks. One of the reasons is because I knew that once I started voicing my feelings about what has been going on, I wouldn't be able to stop. Another reason is because circumstances have directed that I concentrate my energies more into my real life, rather than the virtual one.

But when I read Simon's unkind comments, I had to speak out. I really like Bridget, she's an interesting and sensitve person who I've had the pleasure to get to know. At times like this, I wish I didn't live half a world away, so that I could be with my online friends when they needed a friend.

Stinky, know that I really care about you. You don't deserve the unkind treatment that certain person/s have given you. Stuff them! You don't need them in your life. Stick with those who care about you, and leave behind those who don't. It's the only way to get on with life.

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"Nervous Breakdown"

by StinkyPantz in

what is it exactly?

how do you know if you are having one?

what do you do about it?

Prisca

Simon,

What you said to Stinky was cruel and deliberately hurtful.

You claim this board is one for support, yet when one of our most interesting and intelligent members makes a cry for support, you dismiss her feelings with as much regard as what one would have for a speck of dust.

Stinky does not deserve the treatment you have given her over the past few months. I know you see both of us as trouble-makers, but I really think that is because of your own insecurities, unable to deal with women who are out-spoken and intelligent. In part, the JWism of your life is to blame, but it is also up to you to overcome your prejudices and learn to treat people with empathy and respect.

I hope that you apologise to Stinky for your unkind comments, and more importantly, learn some compassion and understanding of people, so that you treat people in a more humane way.

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If you can answer this, you're Einstein!

by Jennie in

jw
friends

here are some mind boggling questions.

and if you want you can make your own questions.. .

did the people in the bible go to the bathroom?

Prisca

hey Jennie

((((((hugs)))))))

I'm sorry nasty Farkel was horrible to you. He's been nasty to me before so I know what it's like.

Did you know it was my birthday last Friday? I got some flowers, a very pretty candle and a necklace. This is the 2nd time I've been able to celebrate my birthday because I was brought up as a JW like you were. But now I can celebrate as many birthdays as I like

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unlisted phone number

by zev in

jw
friends

in minimus fashion .

one thing that really ticked me off was the "phone number list" that was circulated mungst the elders and serial servents.. .

my phone number was unlisted, yet these blokes went and put my unlisted phone numer on a phone list without asking for permission.. .

Prisca

Simplesally,

You mean to say no one in your congregation knew of your whereabouts? No one ever visited you?

In all the congregations I've been in, it was common knowledge where everyone lived and what their phone numbers were. Why be so secretative about your contact details? If you had nothing to hide, that is.

Zev,

When you gave your number to the PO or whoever it was that put your number on that list, did you specifically state that you had a private phone number, and you didn't wish for it to be given out? If you didn't, then you can't blame whoever it was that put your phone number on the list.

Again, why the secrecy?