Ok. Let's suppose my mother disassociated and informed me of her decision by letter. She also tells me that she will respect my beliefs and not discuss spiritual matters when visiting each other. Let's also say that my father is a non witness and has never been one.
Therefore
1. I have no choice in the matter as would be awkward and unfair on my non witness father as he has every right to associate, particularly when it comes to seeing their grand children.
2. According to their policy, As long as I don't criticise the disfellowshipping/disassociation arrangement, I will not face a judicial.
3. I will not face a judicial if I emphasise that we have agreed that no spiritual matters are or will be discussed.
If you stick to the script as per above there is absolutely nothing more they can do apart from take some privileges away.
If the elders attempt to bring a judicial, they are breaking Watchtower policy and you can therefore appeal this
You could even say that someone told you many years ago ( but can't remember who) that this was the policy.
I am telling you folks this is a loop hole that everyone should know. The rank and file are encouraged to shun their relatives as per the convention video, but technically according to their own policy, they can't bring someone before a judial re what mentioned above!