Hey there AMarie... I feel for you and your "panicked" state. However, what I would do is as soon as you're able, start dropping hints of your own as to what you WOULD like for Xmas. If he brings up anything that hints of an engagement, tell him that you are still working through previous issues, etc. and you feel that you need a bit more time to even consider a lifetime committment with him or anyone. Then, I would start some serious soul-searching... if you feel you don't love this man as much as he loves you (meaning only that he's ready to commit and you truly cannot), I would suggest starting to look for other living arrangements. Living apart doesn't mean you can't see him ... and it may open up feelings in you that you really don't want to live without him. Keep in mind that if you are feeling various emotions (i.e., panic), your body is giving you a huge hint that you are not ready. Just because he's not "the one" right now, he may be "the one" down the road. Just a thought.
Posts by JBean
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10I need advice
by AMarie inhey everybody:.
i am in desperate need of advice and i was wondering if any of you could help me out.
i'm in a bit of a pickle.. here's the story:.
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JW Pioneer Iwons $10,000
by MadApostate inhttp://www.iwon.com/home/winning/daily_winners/daily_winners_overview/0,2164,01_12_2000,00.html.
i wonder what kind of reaction this got her from her cong, whether she is still a pioneer, etc.?.
was this a blessing from jehovah?
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JBean
Thanks for that complete link! Now it works! : ) This gal was from 2000... that's why I couldn't easily find it. by the way... I'm on iWon everyday hoping to get my share! If you all haven't checked it out yet... you should. As they say... "you gotta be in it to win it"... oh... well, that's lotto, but ya know what I mean.
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JW Pioneer Iwons $10,000
by MadApostate inhttp://www.iwon.com/home/winning/daily_winners/daily_winners_overview/0,2164,01_12_2000,00.html.
i wonder what kind of reaction this got her from her cong, whether she is still a pioneer, etc.?.
was this a blessing from jehovah?
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JBean
Which person was this? The link doesn't work for me!
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Homeless JW's
by Trixie indid anyoe else have homeless people in their congregations?
cal, and come from a middle class neighborhood.
it's not like you would find homeless people hangin' around our kh.
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JBean
No... can't say we had any homeless... but Kingdom Halls are a HOTBED for crazies of all types. In my many years of attending, we "collected" every nut in the neighborhood! (sorry for sounding so crass, but it's true!) A few individuals that stand out in my mind: the gal who dressed in layers... and I mean LAYERS upon LAYERS Of clothing in the middle of summer (like a bag lady.. but she HAD a home... go figure), and the guy who thought he was an indian chief and dressed accordingly... the brothers were afraid to comment on it because they realized he was a bit "off" and didn't know what he'd DO if they "spoke" to him. HA!
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Another family lost (I'm feeling sick)
by Andee injust thought i would take a look over at wol.
then, i found this.. of course, all the responses were what fantastic news this was.. .
hdhslh .
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JBean
I feel that this may be what "works" for this family at this particular point in their life. Unfortunately, it may take YEARS for them to feel the backlash... or maybe they will be one of the ones that really never feels they made a bad decision. As sick as this experience makes some feel, it does happen fairly often that people become interested and study. A close family member of mine is busybusybusy converting a young single-mom and her small daughter! I'm distressed about it... but what really could I say and still keep the peace?! I still can't believe that even nowadays... some studies are actually rejoicing that they cannot celebrated b-days, holidays, etc. anymore. Boggles my mind...
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What is marking about?
by Missie Eff ini have a good freind here with me this evening.
(celtic, if you're around you know her - it's liane).
there is something that has always puzzled both of us.
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JBean
Marking is definitely done in the US. It's usually done when someone does something that someone else doesn't like, but there is no real biblical reason for reproving or disfellowshipping. So they've come up with marking... exactly what you said: giving a "generic" talk from the platform but everyone knows EXACTLY what & who it's about. I found in my area that it's usually done to a younger, un-baptized publisher. They go to all lengths to keep the folks in line and afraid to have "bad" association. Usually it's the parents who make their children stop associating with the "marked" person.
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Part 5. The Street Party.
by Englishman insadly, their own demise as family members was now only weeks away, and those other young sisters next door on the other side were looking a bit restless too............ .
within the next few weeks, becky was noticeable by her absence.
our house no linger shook to her madonna singles and the whole family at dub-house 1 seemed to become subdued.
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JBean
Jackie is probably as happy as hell. I wonder if that Faye could say the same...
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The LATEST JW Worldwide report on line
by bj inyou can check the worldwide 2001 report at:.
http://observer.org/apps/pbcs.dll/article?site=wo&date=20011119&category=jwandsociety3&artno=111200001.
joe
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JBean
I don't know... but maybe all they'll say is that the decrease shows that the work is slowing and that is because Jehovah has "weeded" out the unrighteous and that he is sure to bring destruction any day now! What do you think?
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Awake! and pyramidology
by ballistic injust read a recent awake on fen shui and it's pagan origins and it made me wonder if they have ever printed a similar article on pyramidology, considering russell's preoccupation with it?.
i would appreciate any articles as my w.library is still not working.. (please no more pictures of pyramids though)!
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JBean
I can't believe it... what else are they going to pick on??? Feng Shui is now an artform for your home or office. Sheez!
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Were you a witness when you first posted?
by sleepy ini've just been looking at the first post on this site page 668 or something.all the first posts seem to be from active witnesses, discussing things like the new system and when will the end come.. heres a question for simon first what was your intention when you started this site ?were you an active witness?.
when did things change and why?.
and for the rest , did this site influence you in any way ?.
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JBean
Yes... and still am "technically". : ) I agree with Target... we are all not alone, and that knowledge helps tremendously with what each of us has to go through at our own pace.