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  How long before you stopped believing armageddon was on your doorstep?

  by bubba flavel in

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  i was born into "the truth" back in 1964. i made the big mistake of getting baptised when i was about 14 or so, purely to please my father as i saw how proud he was when my brothers were baptised....didn't work.. we moved to a new congregation when i was about 8, he introduced all my brothers to the congregation by name, a short bio of thier endearing qualities and how proud he was of them, when he introduced me it was "and this is our black sheep of the family, steve".. i remember living in fear at the fast approaching 1975....actually, living in terror is probably a more apt desciption.

  all of you will full well know how it was instilled into us at every meeting and assembly how we are living in the last days.. as a 15 year old, a brother dobbed me in for kissing a worldly girl at school.

  went through the marked process, judicial committy, disfellowshipped and the shunning which continues to this day by what's left of my family.

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  ages but very liberating when i found out it was a con !
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  the dub at my door

  by looloo in

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  2. experiences

  on a previous thread i wrote about the child abuse issues i mentioned to the 2 men at my door , but i also told them how awful i think it is that my 6 year olds jw granny had not been to visit her for almost a year (my disfellowshipped husbands mother) because of her beliefs , i said i think it very unchristian behavior and the older one actually agreed!

  but the youger man said that he actually had 2 grandmothers that he had never met because they hate jehovah s witnesses and did not want to see him , i asked him if he was sure that was true and not just what his parents have told him , because when i was a study i was told of all these relatives that no longer wanted anything to do with dubbies when they found "the truth" but in my experiance it is actually the other way around and its actually the dubbies that dont bother with non jw relatives .

  i also mentioned the 1914 thing and it was meant to be th e"end"then 1925 and so on , at this point they were worried they were talking to an apostate and asked if i was ever baptised , i said i had only been a study and carried on talking i told them to check out beth sarim and told them about rutherford being on to a good thing conning everyone into believing the mansion that he very kindly offered to live in till david,issac , abraham etc came back was really for them , the older man actually laughed and said "really" i told them to look up info out of watchtower literature if they were allowed in the kingdum hall library , they said they were allowed to do that !

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  thanyou very much for your comments , i am looking forward to my next visit but dreading it just as much , as i wish someone had told me some info like that when i was still living in fear every day .
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  the dub at my door

  by looloo in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  on a previous thread i wrote about the child abuse issues i mentioned to the 2 men at my door , but i also told them how awful i think it is that my 6 year olds jw granny had not been to visit her for almost a year (my disfellowshipped husbands mother) because of her beliefs , i said i think it very unchristian behavior and the older one actually agreed!

  but the youger man said that he actually had 2 grandmothers that he had never met because they hate jehovah s witnesses and did not want to see him , i asked him if he was sure that was true and not just what his parents have told him , because when i was a study i was told of all these relatives that no longer wanted anything to do with dubbies when they found "the truth" but in my experiance it is actually the other way around and its actually the dubbies that dont bother with non jw relatives .

  i also mentioned the 1914 thing and it was meant to be th e"end"then 1925 and so on , at this point they were worried they were talking to an apostate and asked if i was ever baptised , i said i had only been a study and carried on talking i told them to check out beth sarim and told them about rutherford being on to a good thing conning everyone into believing the mansion that he very kindly offered to live in till david,issac , abraham etc came back was really for them , the older man actually laughed and said "really" i told them to look up info out of watchtower literature if they were allowed in the kingdum hall library , they said they were allowed to do that !

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  i think it went well and i kept them listening because i was pleasant and friendly , i dont blame them as individuals for what happened even though just the sight of a jw brings back alot of bad memories .
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  the dub at my door

  by looloo in

  1. jw
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  on a previous thread i wrote about the child abuse issues i mentioned to the 2 men at my door , but i also told them how awful i think it is that my 6 year olds jw granny had not been to visit her for almost a year (my disfellowshipped husbands mother) because of her beliefs , i said i think it very unchristian behavior and the older one actually agreed!

  but the youger man said that he actually had 2 grandmothers that he had never met because they hate jehovah s witnesses and did not want to see him , i asked him if he was sure that was true and not just what his parents have told him , because when i was a study i was told of all these relatives that no longer wanted anything to do with dubbies when they found "the truth" but in my experiance it is actually the other way around and its actually the dubbies that dont bother with non jw relatives .

  i also mentioned the 1914 thing and it was meant to be th e"end"then 1925 and so on , at this point they were worried they were talking to an apostate and asked if i was ever baptised , i said i had only been a study and carried on talking i told them to check out beth sarim and told them about rutherford being on to a good thing conning everyone into believing the mansion that he very kindly offered to live in till david,issac , abraham etc came back was really for them , the older man actually laughed and said "really" i told them to look up info out of watchtower literature if they were allowed in the kingdum hall library , they said they were allowed to do that !

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  on a previous thread i wrote about the child abuse issues i mentioned to the 2 men at my door , but i also told them how awful i think it is that my 6 year olds jw granny had not been to visit her for almost a year (my disfellowshipped husbands mother) because of her beliefs , i said i think it very unchristian behavior and the older one actually agreed! but the youger man said that he actually had 2 grandmothers that he had never met because they hate jehovah s witnesses and did not want to see him , i asked him if he was sure that was true and not just what his parents have told him , because when i was a study i was told of all these relatives that no longer wanted anything to do with dubbies when they found "the truth" but in my experiance it is actually the other way around and its actually the dubbies that dont bother with non jw relatives . he said he was certain . i also mentioned the 1914 thing and it was meant to be th e"end"then 1925 and so on , at this point they were worried they were talking to an apostate and asked if i was ever baptised , i said i had only been a study and carried on talking i told them to check out beth sarim and told them about rutherford being on to a good thing conning everyone into believing the mansion that he very kindly offered to live in till david,issac , abraham etc came back was really for them , the older man actually laughed and said "really" i told them to look up info out of watchtower literature if they were allowed in the kingdum hall library , they said they were allowed to do that ! i mentioned panarama programme in 2002 also and said you wont have been allowed to watch that though , i think it was probably the first time they had a householder they could not get away from instead of the other way around ! around 20 mins i talked for not giving them chance to get a word in , lol
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  How SAFE are children in the Kingdom Hall?

  by wobble in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this topic is prompted by the recent one on abuse being an isolated incident.. the thread title is not that good, i mean to ask, how safe in the entire org.. the charities commission publishes these instructions for implementation here in the u.k :.

  "procedures and systems provide clear step-by-step guidance on what to do in different circumstances and they clarify roles and responsibilities.

  systems for recording information and dealing with complaints are also needed to ensure implementation and compliance.

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  does anyone have a number for the charity commision ? my daughters abuser was a min servant in the early 1990s , he abused a girl in the cong (a friend of his daughters ) and was "reprooved " around the same time my sister in law was disfellowshipped for smoking !!!! of course he went on to abuse again and raped one girl from the age of 13 untill she was 18 (another friend of his daughters.) he used to threaten to tell her mother what she had been "up to " if she did not do as he said , at the same time as this abuse he was having a relationship with a 17 year old pioneer (friend of his daughters ) who was seeing him till age 20 when they both got found out and disfellowshipped ! i went on to become close friends with this girl when i stopped attending meetings and my daughter was 7 , he eventually raped her age 13 on a regular basis and caused her horrendous damage mentally and physically . it came out in court , that the elders were aware of what he was but no parents were warned , i even asked an elders daughter why he never answered at meetings once , but was given no response ! my daughter would have been saved if the perp had been reported to the police back in the 90s instead of reprooved ! and parents should have been warned , the elders told me they begged the first victims parents to report it to the police but they did not want to , im not sure i believe it though . my childs abuser was a "nice " helpful "friend " or so i thought , so from my personal experiance i do not believe any child can be safe at a kingdom hall , where people take people on face value and believe all dubs are trustwourthy and all the "bad " people are on the outside .
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  a dub at my door said my childs abuse was an isolated case !

  by looloo in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i left town after the court case for a fresh start , it was 18 months before dubs knocked on my door , so i told them why i was not interested in their message , aswell as the watchtower payouts in may 2007 ,with gag orders attached , they seemed quite shocked by that but warned me to be carefull what information i read on the web !

  i told them that in america they do not make up the news !

  they seemed quite shocked about what happened to my child but said it would have ben an isolated case !

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  thanyou for your kind words all , and i have heard the saying "we can not comment on individual cases "a few times also by local elders (obviously been told to keep quiet by the legal team at london .) a counseller told me i should sue though ,because of the fact had he been reported years earlier , when reprooved , my child would not have been abused as i would never have met the perp at the hall .
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  a dub at my door said my childs abuse was an isolated case !

  by looloo in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i left town after the court case for a fresh start , it was 18 months before dubs knocked on my door , so i told them why i was not interested in their message , aswell as the watchtower payouts in may 2007 ,with gag orders attached , they seemed quite shocked by that but warned me to be carefull what information i read on the web !

  i told them that in america they do not make up the news !

  they seemed quite shocked about what happened to my child but said it would have ben an isolated case !

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  i left town after the court case for a fresh start , it was 18 months before dubs knocked on my door , so i told them why i was not interested in their message , aswell as the watchtower payouts in may 2007 ,with gag orders attached , they seemed quite shocked by that but warned me to be carefull what information i read on the web ! i told them that in america they do not make up the news ! they seemed quite shocked about what happened to my child but said it would have ben an isolated case ! i informed them , that there had been 3 victims , and that another child molster in the congregation had caused many other victims , so in just one congregation that was an awfull lot of children who were victims of child sex abuse considering i was once told it was a safe haven ! he told me that this wicked system would soon be over ! i said "i know you mean well but did you realise that your religion has been saying that for over 130 years ? he laughed and said "no, i didnt know that ! i dont think he believed that bit ! any way im a bit sick of hearing the phrase "an isolated case " and wondered how many other "isolated cases"there were in your congregations .
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  What Cong you from???

  by fluke in

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  2. experiences

  hey guys.... .

  just wondering what kh you guys attended and or congregation you are from?.

  me, i'm from hayes cong london and golden ash northants... spent time in others too but mostly those... oh, also a short spat in kempston cong bedford... all in england... :).

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  one in yorkshire , england !
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  sarahs law

  by looloo in

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  2. child-abuse

  does anyone know if the new laws coming in great britain will mean that elders will have to let congregation members know when a sex offender is in the congregation ?.

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  does anyone know if the new laws coming in great britain will mean that elders will have to let congregation members know when a sex offender is in the congregation ?
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  18 year old jw sis in law is getting wed !

  by looloo in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  having got married at only 19 myself first time around i worry it wont work out for her , but at the same time hope it dosnt as it may help her escape eventually from the cult she was born into , i very much doubt whether her brother (my husband )and i will get a invite or her neice will be asked to be bridesmaid , she also has another disfellowshipped sis who would love to get to know her better as contact has been minimal sice she was disfellowshipped when my sis inlaw was very small , my sis in law is a pioneer and appears quite dedicated but struggles with ignoring her bro and sis , she also went to greece on a girly hol with a friend recently ,which im suprised is allowed in jw land , did any of you who were very dedicated as youngsters start to see things differently after getting married to a "strong in the truth" type i cant imagine her coping with being submissive as she is quite strong minded i believe she dumped a previous boyfriend for telling her what she could and could not do .

  i would not have thought getting married at 18 would be considered a good idea, or do they prefer the females to marry young to keep control of them ?.

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  having got married at only 19 myself first time around i worry it wont work out for her , but at the same time hope it dosnt as it may help her escape eventually from the cult she was born into , i very much doubt whether her brother (my husband )and i will get a invite or her neice will be asked to be bridesmaid , she also has another disfellowshipped sis who would love to get to know her better as contact has been minimal sice she was disfellowshipped when my sis inlaw was very small , my sis in law is a pioneer and appears quite dedicated but struggles with ignoring her bro and sis , she also went to greece on a girly hol with a friend recently ,which im suprised is allowed in jw land , did any of you who were very dedicated as youngsters start to see things differently after getting married to a "strong in the truth" type i cant imagine her coping with being submissive as she is quite strong minded i believe she dumped a previous boyfriend for telling her what she could and could not do . i would not have thought getting married at 18 would be considered a good idea, or do they prefer the females to marry young to keep control of them ?