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  Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

  by mtsgrad in

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  i am extremely close to having an affair.

  let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.

  not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.

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  mtsgrad

  Homerovah

  MTS remember what we used to do when we were young teenagers..... hint hint
  I am pleading the 5th.

  It may just cool the waters for the moment until you can be a red hot lover again
  I would need the Niagra Falls to come close.

  And don't perceive that since you haven't been doing the horizontal mamba you've forgotten how to,
  7 years? Reminds me of a bible character! Lol.

  don't worry its just like riding a bicycle once you've jumped back on you'll be ready to roll again., I promise
  I am encouraged. Cheers mate
  
  mtsgrad
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  Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am extremely close to having an affair.

  let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.

  not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  mtsgrad

  DanTheMan

  Are you surpised that my opinion of marriage has changed slightly recently? Conscience? Think mine is ready for a holiday for at least once night!
  Cheers mtsgrad
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  Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am extremely close to having an affair.

  let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.

  not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  mtsgrad

  Awakened at Gilead

  I am so jealous of you. You have divorced the woman you loved once and are still friends. Seems a little Walt Disney to me!

  Along with the dues drying up the communication has too (or maybe it was visa versa a long way back). I dont think she could give a ****. Along with losing my religion I guess I may be using this potential one night stand to liberate me. Any professional counsellors here?

  After listening to posters kind comments I may pull out at the last moment.

  Thanks all

  mysgrad
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  Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am extremely close to having an affair.

  let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.

  not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  mtsgrad

  Homerovah the Almighty

  Sounds to me that you've really have missed that personal intimacy from a woman that loves you
  Is that an understatement

  Coming from experience I would say sort out and clear up this obviously bad one before you venture into a new one, because you drag your old problems right into into your new one.
  I only plan a one or two night stand so cannot how that is possible.

  As Sacolton said, now is the time to think with your large head rather than your little one, plot your course carefully and you'll be fine.
  My little head does not feel like reasoning at the mo!

  Most posters trying to stop me appear to have religious motivations to do so. Knowing my luck, my hot date will trun round to me and say I remind her of her brother!
  
  mtsgrad
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  Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am extremely close to having an affair.

  let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.

  not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  mtsgrad

  Cheers Skully

  You commented:

  I would recommend waiting a little longer for the following reasons: 1) a few more months of abstinence is not going to hurt you, and waiting until you are totally "free and clear" legally will (hopefully) make your intended future partner see you as being honourable, not just using her for meeting your intimacy needs. Not gonna hurt me waiting. I am going delirous at the moment! Future partner. I dont think so. Its just a one, two or three night stand. If my future partner asks in yrs to come, I will tell her the truth. 2) starting a physical relationship with another partner will distract you from the divorce proceedings and may compel you to make decisions that you might regret later. I cannot see how I will be distracted. Then again, I do not get divorced everyday. 3) your ex-wife will (if she discovered an "affair") have more reason to be vindictive and drag out the proceedings and attempt to make matters worse for you financially. It is extremely unlike that my wife will have a whiff of my shannanigans. By law she is getting the maximum out of me anyhows. Technically, I don't consider embarking on a new relationship when it is clear that the previous one is dead and is coming to an end "an affair". It is "moving on with your life." That's a healthy thing. But to refer to it as an "affair" makes me wonder whether you are focused mostly on "getting laid" as opposed to developing a healthy long-lasting relationship with someone you care about. I am most definetly focusing on the former! Cheers mtsgrad
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  Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am extremely close to having an affair.

  let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.

  not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  mtsgrad

  Sweetstuff

  Thanks for your input.
  
  I have had counselling in the past and have just started it again recently after a short break. To answer your question, I was abused as a child. I spent my life growing up not realsing that parents were there to support you. Parents were people who would stick with you thru thick and thin. Family would be a place of support. So when I got married, when things did not work out I did not realise that certain behaviours were not acceptable. As a good witness I did not get counselling. When my cousellor first spoke to me her jaw hit the ground. She said most people had an issue or two to resolve. I had every element of my life in a state of crisis for many years.

  I am not going to live a wild life now, but feel that the warmth of someone who cares about me would not end the world.
  
  But i still appreciates the reservation that a number of you have.
  
  mtsgrad

  sweetstuff	Re: Re: Re: Give me a reason not to have an affair
  Post 2725 of 2725 since 14-Aug-07 36 y 10 m 4 d	I'm more worried about why you stayed so long in a sexless marriage and tolerated that "relationship" than should you or should you not get it on with someone new. Maybe you should seek some counselling as to why you tolerated it before
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  Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am extremely close to having an affair.

  let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.

  not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  mtsgrad

  Ferret
  
  It is impossible to be a set up by my wife. My wife does not have the nous to organise that and my other woman is not in the UK!
  
  mtsgrad
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  Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am extremely close to having an affair.

  let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.

  not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  mtsgrad

  Brother Apostate

  "Make no mistake about this: You can never make a fool out of God. Whatever you plant is what you'll harvest. If you plant in the soil of your corrupt nature, you will harvest destruction. But if you plant in the soil of your spiritual nature, you will harvest everlasting life." - Galatians 6:7-8

  Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. - 1 Corinthians 6:9-10

  BA- Take it seriously.

  Are you serious? If you take the Bible at its word, men and woman have done far worse and have been forgiven. A one night stand after 7 yrs seems kinda reasonable to me. If God punishes me for this then I would not wanna serve him.
  
  I do hope you were joking
  Appreciate your humour
  
  mtsgrad
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  Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am extremely close to having an affair.

  let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.

  not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.

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  2. 
  3. 
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  mtsgrad

  newborn

  Suppressed feelings accounts for the main reasons in not having a divorce or a one night stand. Lets say I have a one night stand. Will my life fall apart. I dnn't think so.
  
  In 5, 50, 500 years will anyone care. Even if armageddon ws true I would not want to live in a world with JWs anyway.
  
  Appreciate your thoughts
  
  Mtsgrad

  Life is too short just to sit and watch it go by

  So true. That's how I felt. We all deserve happiness!!

  Growing up as a JW I'd surpressed my feelings, for all kind of things, for so long. I believe that to deny your wishes for too long will make you very un-happy. Of course you don't want to hurt anyone in the process but as I understand your marriage is basically over anyway.

  /Newborn
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  Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am extremely close to having an affair.

  let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.

  not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  mtsgrad

  AudeSapere

  My wife knows about the divorce and I have instructed my solicitor to start proceedings.
  
  We are still shacked up together.
  Cheers
  
  mtsgrad