Stuckinarut's theory is spot on I believe. JW's have been preconditioned to think negatively of any inactive marriage mate's that active JW's have. The believing mate IS looked at as a martyr for sure. And looked at in a negative fashion.
I'm looked at that way from most of my extended JW family - looked at as a " threat " to their alleged " spirituality " . That might be what you're experiencing as well Zeb. Good comment Stuckinarut. Hang in there Zeb- we're here for you. Take care, Peace out, Mr. Flipper