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What has been your own personal experience of shunning?

by UnshackleTheChains in

i am interested in finding out on a small scale the extent of which shunning has impacted on you personally.. my own experience is that when i faded about 12 years ago.

the woman whose house the book study was held at (and who was virtually a neighbour) walked right past me in my own street.

i remember it so well.

flipper

Well, keep it up Marina, your thinking skills are really, really good. Totally intact, keep the great work up. Have a great weekend

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What has been your own personal experience of shunning?

by UnshackleTheChains in

i am interested in finding out on a small scale the extent of which shunning has impacted on you personally.. my own experience is that when i faded about 12 years ago.

the woman whose house the book study was held at (and who was virtually a neighbour) walked right past me in my own street.

i remember it so well.

flipper

IOWN MYLIFE- Very well put. I totally agree with your points

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Has anyone else seen this video on JW Broadcasting?

by NikL in

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friends

so i was checking out the website to see what the february broadcast was all about before i watched it with my jw wife.. on the front page was this video.... https://tv.jw.org/#en/video/vodbible/pub-jwbai_201607_1_video.

i watched it and pretended i had never been a jw.. if you pretend you don't understand their particular language it makes for a interesting (if not vague) watch.. btw i've seen several of the actors before.

jw version of movie stars?

flipper

I cannot believe I watched the whole 6 minute video without throwing up. WT Society indoctrination all the way. What a crock of shit. Being a musician I was annoyed that the WT tried to play this real down, minor chord depressing serious music while the young man is getting to know the " worldly " girl trying to set the mood as " dangerous " or very " sad " that he has found a non-JW girl that's nice to him ! And that's portrayed as a " bad " thing. And then to compare his getting to know this " worldly " girl as dangerous as Annanias lying and stealing money for himself ? How twisted is THAT ? No wonder most JW's minds are screwed up 6 ways from Sunday ! With crazy ass views like that- they don't know which end is up.

And then once again the music turns all happy, shiny when the young man is in the kingdom hall and doing his WT functions once again. Oh- Another thing. It shows his JW parents being very calm and understanding when he's telling them at the table about his " worldly " girlfriend. Most JW parents I knew would be coming off unhinged yelling at the kid telling him he's " bad " in Jehovah's eyes and needs to go to the elders immediately AND they would ground him without any freedoms to go anywhere or do anything on his own. These videos TOTALLY indoctrinate JW's in an unrealistic way and manner

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What has been your own personal experience of shunning?

by UnshackleTheChains in

i am interested in finding out on a small scale the extent of which shunning has impacted on you personally.. my own experience is that when i faded about 12 years ago.

the woman whose house the book study was held at (and who was virtually a neighbour) walked right past me in my own street.

i remember it so well.

flipper

All we can do folks is realize that it's our JW family members that shun us who are messed up in THEIR heads. It's NOT us. It's NEVER been us. These people are mentally off, mentally ill with cult mind control and dissociative disorder firing on all cylinders in their brain neurotransmitters- and our JW relatives will continue to be mentally off until they get away from the JW mind indoctrination meetings and material that clogs their brains. Until then- their minds will remain stuck in " neutral " - never understanding what real freedom of mind is about.

It's within our capabilities and power to try and continue living a happy, free life and not allow these JW relatives to steal that freedom of mind from us . Let's all keep on keeping on friends ! Freedom of mind and movement is power ! Let's take our power back in our lives ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper

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Guilt as Motivator

by LifesNotOver in

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friends

i've just come across this idea: i've been feeling guilty about not contributing more to this forum, given all the help i've received here.

i feel guilty that i haven't had it as bad as so many of you.

i feel guilty that i didn't have any jw family/friends that shunned me when i left.

flipper

LIFESNOTOVER- Great thread, thanks for posting it . I was a born-in JW from birth, I escaped the JW cult at age 44 back in 2003- and I DO really understand about guilt as well plaguing us as EX-JW's. My elder dad STILL tries to guilt me 13 years after I got out of the cult ! But I've moved on and continued to live MY life the best way I can WITHOUT guilt. It's just another tactic that ALL mind control cults use is guilt and fear to control their members and sometimes it's hard to lose that indoctrination in our minds - even if we've been out of the JW's for awhile. So I empathize- been there, experienced that.

The suggestions of therapy are really great from the other posters- right now I'm getting some grief therapy counseling after my mom died over 2 months ago and it's really helping me to sort out my anger issues towards my older JW elder dad and helping me to NOT feel guilt about the JW influence from his guilt tactics towards me - and it's helping me deal with how I tried to help my mom , but my dad got in the way of me helping towards the end of my mom's life - and the therapist helped me to see that I did the best I could to make my mom comfortable- in spite of my dad's controlling ways.

I wish you the best my friend , please take care of YOU and enjoy life. Life is meant to be enjoyed- guilt free for sure

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My Story

by WeatherLover in

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friends

i'm a 4th generation jw.

i started to realize it wasn't the truth over 2 years ago in late october/early november 2014. i don't know how exactly it happened.

i remember i had just heard about confirmation bias, and it hit me: i realized that i would be guilty of confirmation bias if i didn't look at the other side.

flipper

WEATHER LOVER- Welcome to the board. You are among friends here who have shared similar feelings. But I agree with everybody here- especially what the poster Dubstepped stated so well - that if you want real happiness then you cannot continue to live your life for your JW family. It will eat you up inside and all that they will try to do is put feelings of guilt on you the rest of your life. My JW older family do not recognize my personal rights either- and I've been away from the Witnesses since 2003 !

As Dubstepped said REAL LOVE is not conditional and will be accepting of different life choices you make regarding religious beliefs or even having no religious beliefs. It sounds like you have a great aunt who will help you who is inactive. I would avail yourself of her offer of help to you. And we are here as a friend and support to you as well. Take care, I know it's difficult, but we're here every step of the way with you, we've been there too. And experienced the JW family situations. Take care, Peace out, Mr. Flipper

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What has been your own personal experience of shunning?

by UnshackleTheChains in

i am interested in finding out on a small scale the extent of which shunning has impacted on you personally.. my own experience is that when i faded about 12 years ago.

the woman whose house the book study was held at (and who was virtually a neighbour) walked right past me in my own street.

i remember it so well.

flipper

UNSHACKLE the CHAINS- Thanks for this thread, very important and supportive to those of us who have experienced this shunning.

God almighty, where do I begin ? I got out of the JW's about 14 years ago . Just stopped going, not DFed and I didn't disassociate. But essentially the fanatic JW's in my family have treated me like I'm DFed anyway. When my adult JW daughters got married, I was not allowed to walk either daughter down the aisle . I was not called by one of my daughters when she had her first baby. I found out on her Facebook page. Wasn't allowed to see my grandchild until 6 months of age. And that's because I went over uninvited stopping by randomly . My grandchild is almost a year and a half- have only seen the child 3 or 4 times at formal family affairs. Not enough to form a close relationship.

My mom a JW who recently passed away was always supportive to me in my decision to exit the Witnesses years ago- but my older JW siblings and dad were not supportive. Even though I've occasionally called them to see how they are doing- they NEVER call me and my dad can't wait to hang up the phone on me when I call him to see how he is doing. An epic conversation with him lasts 3 minutes - only.

I have a lot of resentment towards my still active JW family as they all treat me like I have the Black Plague or something. Fortunately- I have many ex-JW nieces and nephews and my son and wife whom I'm close to who are very supportive and kind. We all have really good relationships. But the sadness of losing my mom, and resentment of my older JW family treating me like doo-doo has recently led me to get some grief counseling from Snowline Hospice. I'm seeing a great counselor there and she is assisting me to work through these various sorrows and pains I feel.

I have many good friends here as well I've met through this board and other non-JW friends who love me for who I am- and that is something I cherish. Having friends who accept you for WHO you are - not who they WANT you to be- which is something I'm not. Playing guitar , doing music, and writing songs has helped me cope with the pain as well. So, these things are my therapy. Take care, thanks for the thread

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Scientology Superbowl Ad

by azor in

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friends

simply disgusted with that double standard by our system at times.

cutting ads that question trumps bigoted wall, yet allowing a cult ad in.

wtf..

flipper

ANYWAY- Meanwhile back at the ranch- concerning the thread topic if I may- these ads by Scientology are just damage control due to the heavy negative exposure Leah Remini and Mike Rinder are revealing about criminal and unjust behavior within the Scientology cult. Good for them in exposing this conduct ! It's forcing Scientology to spend millions $$$ in trying to make themselves look " better " . But like Nonjwspouse stated thinking people who have seen Remini's show will see through the BS ads by Scientology as desperation on their part.

We can only hope that more negative exposure comes out regarding Jehovah's Witnesses. All of these cults are dangerous- and much of the public are in oblivion mentally regarding that fact. Peace out, Mr.Flipper

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Mary Tyler Moore Dec.29, 1936 – Jan.25, 2017

by glenster in

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybujst8kozq https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wgeojxtqtwc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxovacssahu https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/mary_tyler_moore.

flipper

When I heard that Mary Tyler Moore had died- it made me sad all over again regarding my own mom dying. My mom's personality was very similar to Mary Tyler Moore's. Very bubbly, an energized person who could carry a conversation very well, an infectious laugh and great sense of humor. Mary you'll be missed , you too mom. Indeed

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Another Young JW dead during childbirth

by Lee Elder in

the latest young jehovah's witness mother to die in childbirth by following the terrible medical advice of watchtower writers.. https://www.niyitabiti.net/2017/02/nigerian-jehovah-witness-allegedly-dies-of-excess-bleeding-during-child-birth-because-church-doesnt-permit-blood-transfusion/.

flipper

I don't understand the hesitance on the other posters here in accepting this story. Thousands of JW's have died from not receiving life saving blood transfusions throughout the years. Why on earth would this Facebook poster be making this story up ? It sounds legitimate to me . Seems as if he is sincerely mournful over the loss of life of this dear lady.

Thanks for posting this Lee Elder. Once again it shows how the WT Society and Jehovah's Witnesses do NOT value this life in the here and now. It's important for non-JW's to see these crimes happening