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  Non JW dating a DF JW

  by ea1974 in

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  hello..im new to this site and am really lost.

  my bf of 3 years has been raised a jw.

  he was married for 7 years and during this separation, was disfellowshipped.

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  ea1974

  Thank you guys so much. As I sit here sobbing in tears, I know what I have to do. It tears my heart out. Wow..what a waste of 3 yrs. Sad...
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  Non JW dating a DF JW

  by ea1974 in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hello..im new to this site and am really lost.

  my bf of 3 years has been raised a jw.

  he was married for 7 years and during this separation, was disfellowshipped.

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  ea1974

  Yeah..he is a very lost soul. Thinks that the WT is the only way to be a good decent person. Knows nothing else. Im screwed. I do love him very much. But My child has to be my main concern now.
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  Non JW dating a DF JW

  by ea1974 in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hello..im new to this site and am really lost.

  my bf of 3 years has been raised a jw.

  he was married for 7 years and during this separation, was disfellowshipped.

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  ea1974

  Perfect description. BS....Any advice on how to get someone -who was raised JW..mother is still VERY active, wife ( ex..or whatever..) and 2 young kids that are still very active, but he was disfellowshipped and says he wants back in- to even remotely think about being deprogrammed????? How do I even bring that up? He will be so insulted.
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  Non JW dating a DF JW

  by ea1974 in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hello..im new to this site and am really lost.

  my bf of 3 years has been raised a jw.

  he was married for 7 years and during this separation, was disfellowshipped.

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  ea1974

  His wife does know about me..but Im pretty sure he is still lying to her about the whole truth. As far as his loyalty...I have almost no trust left. He tells me what I want to hear. Like today..his wife and kids are leaving San Diego to drive to Utah for 12 days. So he got up early, took them to bfast, went to mtg, and now is still at their house "hanging out." because they are leaving for so long. Sounds innocent right? Well...my mind doesnt see it that way. I see him going to mtg, sitting w her and the kids like he is trying to come back as the "changed person" he wants them to see. Then they hang out as a family all day. But he tells me different. He HAS tried to get me to go with, but he now says that I have to go on my own to a different congregation because they will never accept me if I go with him. I will never go...EVER...or ever raise my child in the religion. Im just very sad that its Christmas Eve..and Im sitting here ALONE...missing Christmas. Wanting my child to have Christmas. Wanting him to WAKE UP and leave her and the JW's. But Im afraid that will never happen.
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  Non JW dating a DF JW

  by ea1974 in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hello..im new to this site and am really lost.

  my bf of 3 years has been raised a jw.

  he was married for 7 years and during this separation, was disfellowshipped.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  ea1974

  Hello..im new to this site and am really lost. My bf of 3 years has been raised a JW. He was married for 7 years and during this separation, was disfellowshipped. Well..that was 4 years ago. Living separately from his wife and 2 kids now for 4 years, 3 of them with me. The entire time telling me that he was getting divorced but that it is difficult because of the religion. His wife and 2 kids are still very very involved with the religion and he still attends book studies, meetings etc, although not regularaly. Only when he feels guilty about something and says he needs to get his life back in order and start going again. Well.I am now 5 months pregnant with his child, he is still married, attending mettings, and telling me that he goes separately from his family and wants me to raise this child as a JW. I personally have NO knowledge about the religion and have my own Christian beliefs. He has gone back and forth between me and his "wife" for the last 3 yrs but promising me the whole time that it isnt happening. Church is just a part of his life I can not be involved in. (Which I never will and dont want to) But now that this child is coming...im so lost. We didnt do Christmas this yr, but did last yr and the yr before. He keeps going back n forth and Im going insane. I think I need to end this but my child....wow...what have i done?? Any thoughts would be appreciated.

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