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  My Muslim friend's and the Koran.

  by new hope and happiness in

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  in another thread i raised the point " there are moderate muslims but their is no moderate islam".

  now i must face the fact i have muslim friends who say they believe the koran.. well i have asked these muslim friends, if they have investigated the origins of the koran.

  they have answerd " yes".

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  SOP,

  I do agree in principle with you. But I know that Muslims currently are troubled by some of the attitudes that waft their way due to the actions of fellow Muslims. The 9/11 attack was a life changer for many Muslims even here in Arkansas.

  If the Quran has mandates for rotten treatment of sinners and nonmuslims--violent repression etc. then it might be enlightened self interest and not a terrible thing for our Muslim friends to find non-threatening entry to topic that allow discussion.

  You know, if Muslims are too afraid or are simply oblivious, they will not engage. But TTATT was relevant for you and me--so it may be for them.

  We do not have to assault their religion--but it may be comforting to examine the various reasons we left the WTBTS --one reason being that we now can associate with Muslims without trying to convert them!
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  Help

  by Horseygirl12 in

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  im so frustrated i could kill myself right now!!

  im 15 and a couple weeks ago i confessed to my parents that i didn't want to be a jehovahs witness anymore and also that i was bisexual.

  i had just gotten back from an eating disorder clinic and my parents decided to put me back in school (i was homeschooling before).

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  humbled

  They need to get educated about sexual identity issues.

  If they think it is all a choice, they'll be on your back FOREVER! The first thing they have to accept is that this is rarely a choice. Next they need to ask themselves "Where does this come from?" Chances are they don't think Jah sent it. They won't concede that it was a natural event(doesn't happen on Jah's watch, Lol?)

  I'd work hard on them letting you go to public school. Pull yourself together, don't dodge down the street to your friends who are non-witnes/lesbian/bisexual every moment you are free. Get out with a whole range of people. You'll find others of your own sort there. But get out into public school. It will be an easier battle to win --perhaps. Work with what you've got.

  and good luck.
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  My Muslim friend's and the Koran.

  by new hope and happiness in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  in another thread i raised the point " there are moderate muslims but their is no moderate islam".

  now i must face the fact i have muslim friends who say they believe the koran.. well i have asked these muslim friends, if they have investigated the origins of the koran.

  they have answerd " yes".

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  LUHE,

  No problem. I actually prefer it when someone bothers to tear me a new one--I survived anal canal cancer for over a year now-- If it comes back, I get in touch with you .

  In truth, the problem of fearing to talk is a huge concern of mine. I was raised in a family that suppressed dialogue and fought it, I ended up in a religion that offered freedom of religion and found it false. I hate it-- there is no save haven for ourselves and our children when we fear.

  I do agree with you that caution is needed--that's why I say not to go head-on with frightened Muslims--- but come in side ways with our own experience of repression( the JW experience). We are free to express the adverse effect it ultimately had on all we wanted to protect---particularly our children. We can elaborate on the wretched effect it had on our girls. We can expand on the repression of our young men.

  It isn't an original idea--this idea of coming in sideways-- NOT directly-- with a story or example that WE know applies to a certain subject--others have used it to good effect. We have this shared example: In our Witness days we remember the story of the prophet Nathan telling the story to the king, David: The story was of a man whose single young she-lamb was taken fom a poor family and slaughtered for the rich neighbor's meal--And the story hit home for David. He had done the same by screwing Uriah's wife.

  Such an approach creates freedom because of the "plausible deniability" it allows. I have had to use it often myself when there have been volitile matters in our family to discuss. I've disagreed with my own husband over matters that have involved criminal matters and our children. Often there are issues that have to be dealt with round-about. But they have to be addressed eventually.

  Chickens DO come home to roost.

  Maybe we can shoo them away for a time--but they propagate and will move into your house sooner or later.

  And, LUHE, I admire that you care so much for NHAH that you flew in my face. It was rattling but goddammed real.

  Maeve
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  My Muslim friend's and the Koran.

  by new hope and happiness in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  in another thread i raised the point " there are moderate muslims but their is no moderate islam".

  now i must face the fact i have muslim friends who say they believe the koran.. well i have asked these muslim friends, if they have investigated the origins of the koran.

  they have answerd " yes".

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  LUHE,

  I can see why you would steer clear of sensitive issues. Having my views crammed up my arse might be a prime conversation topper in your world but not mine. There are ways to talk --even if indirectly-- about freedom. And we should if we send the young to die for it--what do we do at home?

  You love freedom. So do I.

  By the way, I am a 62 year old she.

  Maeve

  PS. Clue me--Attack you as a person? I disagree with your advice. Is that the same as trashing your comment? Apology if you felt contempt . This is a discussion forum, no?
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  My Muslim friend's and the Koran.

  by new hope and happiness in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  in another thread i raised the point " there are moderate muslims but their is no moderate islam".

  now i must face the fact i have muslim friends who say they believe the koran.. well i have asked these muslim friends, if they have investigated the origins of the koran.

  they have answerd " yes".

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  humbled

  Be very, very careful Your moderate muslim friends might tell one of their more 'zealous' friends all about their chats with you.

  If I were you, I'd forget all about it and just smile, nod politely. and change the subject.

  Your health and life are worth more than any muslim's belief.--LUHE

  Didn't we hate this about the Borg---the fear of reasonable discussion with friends? The mistrust that governs repressive religion requires a measure of our own complicity, doesn't it?

  How can anyone on the board who is terrified of Islam simply smile, nod politely and change the subject? And if it turns out to be the preferred way to deal with our dread of living under a caliphate, how is it that born-in muslims are condemned for not complaining of ISIS militants or sharia law?

  Of all people, the ex-dubs can share our cautionary tale of the insidious effects of a "peaceful" religion that violates conscience, family relations, love, spiritual privacy, genuine neighborliness, women's rights, educational opportunities--you name it.

  In other words, if we haven't fully realized the value of our freedom as ex-JWs, then now is the time to reflect on it. We can mine the threads on this forum for excepts of the thorny problems we face when we try to reconcile old writings with present realities.

  We are fairly safe in doing it now, too. When a Muslim is our friend they have already had the bravery to violate the Quran by befriending us, right? And we are NOT living in Saudi Arabia, right? So talk about the experience you had as a "Christian Witness of Jehovah"---I almost guarantee it will open the door to discussion.
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  Disfellowshipping painting

  by Rambo Morris III in

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  made by kirsi-maria aho.

  name of the painting is "committee".

  here is the link if picture doesn't appear.

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  How moving, expressive. Beautiful. For all it's sort of graphic primitive imagery it still has subtle elements. Well done.
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  tough year

  by GoUnion in

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  hello everyone just wanted to give a litte update on my leaving jws.

  i was an active ms up till the beginning of this year and things were going pretty good up till now.

  my wife is active and that has been tough but we were managing.. two months ago my older brother passed of a sudden heart attack.

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  Go to counseling to understand what has happened--even if you know why a break-up is pending, maybe she needs to look at the rigid line of JW married life. See it through another person's perspective.

  But I would leave if there is no emotion, passion for life that you share.

  You are good to be thinking of her welfare--but she is stuck in an impoverished world in more ways than one. Perhaps offer her financial help if she will get training to better her income-earning capacities. Sisters I knew had their backs and knees wear out from housecleaning jobs.

  sorry about your brother. I'm glad you got to be around him more these past years.
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  Should Pot Be Legalized?

  by minimus in

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  i don't smoke anything but i know many that do--- some frequently, most infrequently.. personally, i don't see much difference between drinking alcohol and pot use.. should pot be legalized?.

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  Yes.
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  For the weaker moment

  by Gorbatchov in

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  i think we all have some time a weaker moment and miss the times we were regular witness.. to admit, i have some of these moments a year.. for these moments i have this point "i can't accect being part of.

  a religious organisation that structural apeals child abuse cases".. then i'm finished with the moment.. the path is narrow.. g.. .

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  I am glad to be out. Always.

  The fact that my JW friends won't/can't say anything to me says it all.
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  Human kindness

  by stillin in

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  i hold kindness in high regard; it separates us from the drudgery of life and elevates those who practice it as well as those who receive it.

  my family has been going through a big crisis for several weeks now and i've noticed a few things.

  several of the elders have expressed their concern for us, shared a scripture and then back out to field service or whatever.

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  humbled

  Ditto