i see...
there's a great danger in trying to attract truth-seekers. like dormant volcanoes they will errupt with enough friction.
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two birds with one stone, without getting stoned. possible?
by TheKings ini really need some help from the experts.
the situation i'm living in now is that i'm currently saving money to move out.
my family are jw's, but actually only my mom is baptised.
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that's a very good suggestion, since they know just how psycho she can get...and they've been having huge problems lately. they come home every night from the meeting and all she does it complain about how everyone hates her there so she has to move congregations again.
she's the type of person who loves being a martyr no matter how much she protests. they know how she gets, especially with me. that might work.
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Fading: A Little Craziness Helps
by metatron inas you may know, i am a zealous advocate of using depression as a means of fading out of the organization.. let me add that a hint of craziness or mental illness can work wonders, too.
instead of shunning you, your witness.
relatives and "friends" may make quite an allowance for you, if you just keep your mouth shut about deep apostasy.. they may just feel sorry for you and leave you alone- at least, that's largely my experience.. remember that movie that said "love means never having to say you're sorry"?
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Metatron - I will say it again, as I did in your previous thread about this: You might consider that quite a number of forum readers/users actually DO battle mental illness FOR REAL. Your flippant comments about pretending to be "crazy" are offensive. This is why there is such a stigma against mental illness. People don't view it as a real disease, and that if sufferers really wanted to, they could just wish their illness away. This type of attitude trivializes the difficulty in dealing with the disease and does no favors to those who really suffer.
i faced those issues and i thought the post was funny.
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two birds with one stone, without getting stoned. possible?
by TheKings ini really need some help from the experts.
the situation i'm living in now is that i'm currently saving money to move out.
my family are jw's, but actually only my mom is baptised.
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good advice, thank you...
i know they will tell her though...unless i'm able to do it perfectly. i was never that close with any of them because through-out my life i've always had to hide my true self.
the first step will be the hardest one of all.
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I have a question...
by brunhilda40 ini really need some help and clariety on a situation i am involved in with a friend who is jw.
i am not jw, i am a female lesbian.
i have made a friend threw work who is jw.
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don't give her up without a fight and see if she starts to fight for herself.
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two birds with one stone, without getting stoned. possible?
by TheKings ini really need some help from the experts.
the situation i'm living in now is that i'm currently saving money to move out.
my family are jw's, but actually only my mom is baptised.
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it's strange...i'm here looking for answers and they are all doing their pre-study. :p i love it when they leave and i have the house all to myself.
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two birds with one stone, without getting stoned. possible?
by TheKings ini really need some help from the experts.
the situation i'm living in now is that i'm currently saving money to move out.
my family are jw's, but actually only my mom is baptised.
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thanks...
i am clean and sober. i don't drink or do drugs. i wasn't THAT stupid. i am smart enough not to leave without being ready...but it's nice to know i have an option. although my family cares, they still watch me like a hawk and don't allow me to have any friends unless i'm going to make JW ones.
my life is very controlled.
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Welcome To TheKings
by bigmouth innice to have you here.
i'd noticed that you'd made four posts today and no one realised you were new.
with such a grand increase of newbies it's easy to get missed!
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"Grand Increase" sounds JW ... lol
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two birds with one stone, without getting stoned. possible?
by TheKings ini really need some help from the experts.
the situation i'm living in now is that i'm currently saving money to move out.
my family are jw's, but actually only my mom is baptised.
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i really need some help from the experts. the situation i'm living in now is that i'm currently saving money to move out. my family are JW's, but actually only my mom is baptised. my other sisters are on the verge of baptism and my dad is just along for the ride and goes to meetings because he wants to avoid getting kicked out of the house for his repeated rank behavior and drug-abuse. he thinks if he tries to do good he'll get one second chance after another, but that's beside the point.
i was raised a JW, just like my sisters but i was always the independent one and drifted away from the teachings. i went into deep bouts of depression and cut myself because i viewed myself as worthless for straying and being evil. i lived a double life because i wanted to hurt myself... i did dangerous things and had sex to disown myself and the things i was taught. i had a nervous breakdown and was put on dangerous seizure meds for my tremors which only exacerbated the problem. i lost so much weight that i wore size 0 jeans and they were loose... i lost my drivers license and my college scholarship.
i sitll haven't gotten either back ... my mom is happy, secretly, because likes me to be tied down where she doesn't have to worry about me running off again. she blames the whole thing on worldly people when it was really the JW's teachings, and it was my worldly friends who helped me through it. i haven't been to a meeting since the memorial last year which i went to just to avoid confrontation with my mother.
they don't ever give me a hard time about the meetings anymore, they just accept it and once in a while telll me they wish i'd come back. i have not yet told her my stance since i want to avoid being kicked out with nowhere to go...but my boyfriend is offering me a roof, however i don't want to make the move until i have my finances in line.
they don't know i have a boyfriend and they don't know i've been to these sites and found out all about the secrets of the JW organisation, and i have to hide that i'm even on this forum. telling them is not an option...the few times i tried to tell my mom about my real self she screamed at me with JW concepts backing all of her arguments...
i'm facing the problem now of how to tell her i've been seeing a man for 2 years and am soon moving in with him and telling her the things i've learned through these sites. she won't trust any criticism of the organisation coming from me since i'm not going to meetings anymore...but i feel a responsibilty to say SOMETHING because my sisters are about to get baptised and commit their lives to it.
help!
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The JW phrase I most despise is...
by exwitless in"need greaters" ugh!!
i hate that phrase and i always have.
we knew a jw couple who applied every year to bethel and giliad until the age cut-off (age 35 or 40?).
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'the truth' - absolute worst one EVER
'worldly' - *shiver*
'kingdom hall' - instead of church. wtf is that about?
the list goes on and on...