Posts by Casper

although i attend meetings to please my wife on occasion i have no link with these people on any level....i was looking at my dogs yesterday thinking what good buddies they are, they don't expect much, food a pat, a walk, throw the ball and play...and give lots of love.

mans best friend indeed!

other than my wife and dogs i'll be damned if i need anyone.. .

Casper

And it's "Unconditional Love" too... !!!

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What Do You Say To Those Who Have Lost Someone In Death?

by minimus in

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friends

i find it more difficult to be genuinely helpful by my words when condolences are in order.

when i was a jw, i'd give people the "ressurection hope" and feel i could give a measure of solace.

now, i feel inadequate when offering my thoughts.. what do you say when a dear loved one passes away?.

Casper

Also wanted to add:

When my second husband died, we had recently had a WT article on helping the bereaved, which mentions sharing humorous memories about the deceased with the loved ones..

As soon as I entered the Emergency Room at the hospital, I was met by a PO.

He immediately starting spouting humorous (to him) antidotes of my husband... That pi$$ed me off so bad at the moment, and I let him know it on the spot.

My husband had died, I hadn't even seen him yet... No way was I in the mood for stupid "Jokes".

Maybe after some time has passed, the bereaved will be ready for humor, but not within the first hour.

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What Do You Say To Those Who Have Lost Someone In Death?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i find it more difficult to be genuinely helpful by my words when condolences are in order.

when i was a jw, i'd give people the "ressurection hope" and feel i could give a measure of solace.

now, i feel inadequate when offering my thoughts.. what do you say when a dear loved one passes away?.

Casper

"You have to realize that nothing you can say will help their loss."

I agree with John Doe's words above, having been widowed twice at young ages, nothing on earth touches the pain. Both times I was in such shock, which most people are at that time,... that words from friends just went over my head.

It would be sometime later, when I could reflect and really appreciate the kindness offered.

For me, just having people acknowledge the fact that it happened and not being afraid to bring it up (as tho the person never existed), helped on some level.

We all mean well when we try to express our feelings to another, but death is one of those things that only time will heal.

I tell people in those situations that I understand, that I am very sorry they are experiencing this, and it will get better in time even tho it doesn't feel like it.

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I made it!!!

by purplesofa in

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to fifty!!.

never dreamed life would be as it is now, .

there are times i did not think i would make it.

Casper

"Happy Birthday" !!!!

Hope you have a wonderful day.... here's to the next 50 ~

Cas

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MY BROTHER-IN-LAW HAS DIED

by Mary in

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friends

this is one post i had always hoped i would never have to do, but after a long and brave battle, my beloved brother in law has died.

i have done a couple of threads on this in the past, so many of you know the battles he was facing.

he had been diagnosed earlier this year with myelodysplastic syndrome and the mortality rate of this disease is quite high.

Casper

I too, am very sorry.

You all have been thru so much, my heart goes out to you and your family.

Sincerely,

Cas

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Prejudice in the Kingdom Hall.

by Joshnaz in

have you ever noticed how in the kingdom halls who have a mix of races, you find the whites sit in one area of the kingdom hall, and the blacks have their own section?

the district conventions and circuit assemblys too.

i've noticed one particular section where there were just black people who made up about 20% of the dc and the rest were white.

Casper

"he wouldnt ever give us a blood card"

Seriously ??

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Prejudice in the Kingdom Hall.

by Joshnaz in

have you ever noticed how in the kingdom halls who have a mix of races, you find the whites sit in one area of the kingdom hall, and the blacks have their own section?

the district conventions and circuit assemblys too.

i've noticed one particular section where there were just black people who made up about 20% of the dc and the rest were white.