Flying, thanks for the input...but you are wrong. i already said I am staying with him...I am venting about the situation. just because many people gave the opinion of divorce doesnt mean that is what I was looking for. i have recently discovered just how much wt and the jw religion has impacted him as a born in, and us as a side effect now that he has gone back. you can find my other posts if you choose, my child saying that was just an added issue to the other crap. but i have no intent to divorce or seperate from my husbamd, and have been seeking advice to wake him up to ttatt. even though he cheated, i take responsibility for the state of our marriage, too.and decided to stay. my point in even mentioning it was to give the basis for why he wemt from being inactive for over a decade to full on uber dub in less than a year...i will never be a dub, my child isnt ipressed either. and now i know she is also harboring anger about his cheating when i didnt even know she knew...
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My Child Has Asked Me to Divorce Husband
by HeyThere ini guess i am just venting.
its a mess.
i just dont even know where to start with this crap.
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What Better Way Is There For You to Use Your Assets Then to Support Kingdom Interests
by HeyThere injust heard from the brother doing todays talk....
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Just heard from the brother doing todays talk...
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My Child Has Asked Me to Divorce Husband
by HeyThere ini guess i am just venting.
its a mess.
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she knows he cheated on me. i believe that is part of it. i was able to talk with her in further detail and got the timeline narrowed down.
she asked me if he cheated on me. i told her what happened between her dad and i was adult atuff and it would be innappropriate to talk with her about anything. she responded with "so thats a yes."
our other child had actually been the one who busted him and told me. so theres that. but it is becoming clearer to me why she is so angry.
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My Child Has Asked Me to Divorce Husband
by HeyThere ini guess i am just venting.
its a mess.
i just dont even know where to start with this crap.
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I do still love him...and he loves us very much. I realize many of the issues stem from how he was raised (a dub) his mom left his dad because he wasnt a wotness...it completely tarnished his relationship with his dad. he doesnt realize how mich jw is the cause...this is all he knows.
my husbamd did slap me one time years ago and i flipped out on him...no kids were around...he has and will not touch me like that again or he knows it will be over and he will be in jail. we have had crazy times in our marriage and some of it is my fault. i am not going to get into much of that now, but when things came to a head last year we agreed to move forward. and things have been good. he is being a good husband and father in the way he was raised to believe a good husband and father should be. i know his dub family, they are very very active dub. i am not just going to divorce him now when i love him and know his intentions are good. he has his family...siblings, mom, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, who are all active witnesses congratulating and supporting him. he has close friends in the hall. he truly doesnt umderstand why i am having a hard time with it because to him, it is the truth. that is why it is so sad for me.
my child was again telling me to divorce him last night. i think there is more to it all now than she priginally let on, and i told her we will not just leave we need to talk to him if she is that angry. she didnt want to, i told her i would. so i talked to my husband. i told him she is angry and wants me to divorce him. he is heartbroken. but hopefully this can start some deep thought and repair.
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Did the GB ever receive new light without the passage of time forcing it upon them?
by Zoos in1914 did not bring the end they were hoping for so new light shone down from above and corrected their understanding.. 1925 also led to unfulfilled expectations and so new light was bestowed.. .
(i could go through all the dates and expectations... but i won't.).
what if the new light about 1914 being the year that christ returned was provided before 1914?
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the sister i studied with said "they admitted they were wrong." about 1975 when I asked about it...my response "well, they kinda had too, since it clearly didnt happen as they said..." she nodded as she thought of the next thing to say...
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My Child Has Asked Me to Divorce Husband
by HeyThere ini guess i am just venting.
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Tal, thank you so much for the support. my head is spinning from everything i am learning. so sad and draining.
i got the crisis of concience book and started reading it yesterday...very good read so far. i am waiting on all the other books i ordered...but they are older wt pubs...cant wait to research the crazy there.
my husband is still being distant. this morning he was reading about apostates and blood...so either he is checking to see if he should be labelling me an apostate or is doing his own research on questions i brought up.
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My Child Has Asked Me to Divorce Husband
by HeyThere ini guess i am just venting.
its a mess.
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oh my. i dont even know how to respond. this is all so overwhelming.
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My Child Has Asked Me to Divorce Husband
by HeyThere ini guess i am just venting.
its a mess.
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yes, three kids. 2 are adults and out of the house. only one of them has said something to me...and basically asked me what was going to happen in our marriage now that he is fully dubbed again. this one had spent a year studying woth the dubs on her own and also know how sensitive husband is about it all.
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My Child Has Asked Me to Divorce Husband
by HeyThere ini guess i am just venting.
its a mess.
i just dont even know where to start with this crap.
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I have posted a couple other threads about the situation and my recent convo with him trying to wakw him up to ttatt...i do want to clarify that it has been less than a month since I first started sharing with him my doubts...prior to that I was perfectly fine with the religion...i had not yet grasped all the strange and it caught him by surprise...he was a born in...he was raised believing this is the truth...so he camt understand why i think it is strange...and that is what I told him...that it is very strange some of the beliefs. when i found out about candice conti and found all the other stiff i was....disgusted. an elder also told me during my interview to be an unbaptised publisher that they report numbers for inactive and former witnesses who havnt written a da letter...even kids, because, and i quote, "it makes the numbers look better." too many "wtf" moments for me and i will mever get baptised.
i am not worried that he will turn violent. we have been together for over a decade. he may yell but he wont touche. i also have my own money and could disappear in a flash with help from various sources. he can be a dick but he wont go there. thank you for the concern though and i do appreciate all the comments and suggestions he is being selfish, he is being passive-aggressive amd the fact that my kid wants us to leave him is concerning to say the least.
i ordered a bunch of old jw books and am hoping some of the crazy stuff in there will open his eyes. he can be a dub all he wants as long as he respects us, which he is struggling with right now. perhaps i should just rip off the bamdaide but i need to try a little longer or i will not be comfortable with it.
and yes, i should definitely do the counciling
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My Child Has Asked Me to Divorce Husband
by HeyThere ini guess i am just venting.
its a mess.
i just dont even know where to start with this crap.
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nugget...you are right. it is depressing.