I was thinking about some of the crap I went through with the elders during one of the hardest times of my life. I was seeking help from the elders and had told them that I had been sexually abused as a child. I was VERY upset that my father-in-law, who was an elder and PO, had abused SO many children and yet the elders in his hall and at the WTS did nothing about it. He had already been arrested and was awaiting trial. Because of this I was losing faith in the elders and WTS (yes the WTS was directly involved but will deny it until the end of time). The elders set up another meeting with me at my request. (I kept asking them to come and help me understand) They brought articles about victims feeling guilt. I told them over and over that I was not feeling guilt, but that I was upset that the guilty person was not being held accountable. Yet they would not address that. They just kept reading the parts about victims feeling guilt. They were drilling it and drilling it and would not let it go. I left that meeting feeling beaten. They seemed to be trying to make me think that it was because of my own issues with guilt that I could not let the matter go. All I wanted was for them to acknowledge what had happened and take measures to correct it.
What makes a bunch of uneducated and untrained men think they can handle these issues? And what makes people like me think they can help? (I know now I was wrong.)