Yes, and no. We had "faded" before we knew what the term meant. We were actually just "taking a break" with the full intention of going back. But my husband started researching the WTS due to some information he found on the site www.religioustolerance.org
Then he moved on to Hassan's book "Combatting Cult Mind Control." All of this time I thought he was researching the purchase of his new car. LOL! So I had no idea what was really going on. We hadn't been to a meeting in six months by then (not counting Memorial,) but I still believed all the JW doctrine, and intended to get reactivated soon. One night I realized he was sneaking around reading a book, so I demanded to know what he was doing. I thought he was reading the Kama Sutra again, and I was getting kind of tired of trying weird stuff.
Anyways, he hands me Hassan's book, then goes back to sneaking around. I was still pretty programmed, so everytime I tried to read the Hassan book I would literally fall asleep. Anyone who knows me knows I am a voracious reader, and NEVER fall asleep on a book, but I just couldn't get into this one. This all was happening in the week preceding the District Convention. I KNEW he was sneaking around reading something else, so Wed night before convention, I demanded to know what it was. He handed me CoC. I started reading it immediately. I'll read anything.
Well, by the next day I knew going to the Convention was going to be the hardest thing I'd ever done. I was MAD. I did NOT want to have anything to do with the JWs ever again, although I still would have thrown a fit if anyone had tried to label me an apostate. We managed to sit through two hours of one session only. When we got back home from the convention, I asked my hubby, "so... what website have you really been looking at? I know it can't possibly be cars... especially if it has you reading books..."
He showed me freeminds.org, then JWD. Then I shocked him by signing on immediately and going into chat! LOL!
So I didn't really "catch" him, it's just been kind of a joke around here that I caught my husband looking at "apostate material on the internet!"