Can you say "therapy breakthrough"??????
OMG! Today at therapy I was relating to her how when I was 14 and was aquaintence raped by a boy who I skipped school with in a laundry room. (We were supposed to go to someone's house and her Mom was home so it was freezing and no where to go, so we eneded up hanging in an apartment laundry room.)
By today's standards what was done to me would be called "aquaintence rape" ... let's put it this way ... I was a virgin and he didn't even kiss me ... yeah ... I REALLY wanted it right?
Well ... that is what the elders told me. I remember one looking at me saying how "He knew I wanted it because it was hard to find a laundry room door that locked ... we purposely set out to find one with a locking door."
My therapist pointed out that I knew that was not true and here this man was looking at this 14 year old crying child and accusing her of being a "dirty Jezebel" ...
That his opinion of women was that we were sex fiends or something. She explained it better but you know what ... she was right. He was "projecting" his ideas onto me.
Then we just got into the discussion about the view of women in general.
It all came so clear.