Having an affair acceptable in your religion?

by antimarriagewrecker 30 Replies latest jw experiences

  • Narkissos

    I don't have a clue about US laws but I could bet 2 c. that some level of privacy is legally protected even within marriage. So I doubt you are entitled to do anything with your husband's personal e-mail. Or am I wrong?

  • Billygoat

    Like others have said, this type of behavior is NOT condoned. But depending on how strong you are, I would get in touch with her face to face. I would make it clear under no uncertain terms is she to continue this behavior with your husband or you WILL get "in touch with the elders". Tell her she is making a bad name for her religion and it may scare her enough to realize her actions.

    I am saying this under the assumption that your husband is being honest about telling her to stop. Some men are too nice to really make it stop, even if it's their responsibility.

  • frenchbabyface

    Does your husband know about anti-spam ??? ...

  • LittleToe

    You could use the opportunity to help one more misguided soul out of the WTS.

    Perhaps confronting her with her actions and explaining that she obviously is finding it difficult to follow her religion's requirements, followed by directing her to this site, might give her pause for thought.

    The confrontation might help your own problem in the short term, and the information help her's in the long term.
    The information might drive her a bit scatty and not help your situation in the medium term, but ultimately that should have been your husband's responsibility, as others have pointed out.

    Not feeing that altruistic?
    Ahhh, can't blame yah.
    Never mind, as you were - just try not to gouge out her eyeballs in public

  • mkr32208
    I find it amusing that you had to come to an ex-JW website to find that out.

    World gets weirder every day doesnt' it... Maybe armegedon is coming!

  • Doubtfully Yours
    Doubtfully Yours

    JWs do not condone this woman's slutty behavior.


  • Valis

    Hello Clarise...

  • Purza

    I don't mean to be inconsiderate of your feelings, but are you absolutely sure that your husband is not participating in the exchange of emails and such? He may tell you one thing, but do another. I know this from experience.

    And as everyone else has said. . . no affairs are not acceptable in the JW religion.


  • unbeliever
    are you absolutely sure that your husband is not participating in the exchange of emails and such? He may tell you one thing, but do another. I know this from experience.

    I was thinking the same thing. Make absolutely sure he is not a participant in this.

    Now if you really want to get her out of your life find out what congregation she belongs to and write to this address:


    25 Columbia Heights

    Brooklyn, NY 11201-2483

    Give details (name, her Kingdom Hall (church), and send them all your documentation. Crooklyn will then get in touch with her elders.

    Please let us know what happens.

    P.S. I would not do this w/o your husbands cooperation. It's really his responsibilty. He should have nipped this in the bud along time ago which brings me back to purza's post. Make sure.....

  • Elsewhere

    Find out if she is baptized as a Jehovahs Witness. If she is then that means that she is recognized as a Ordained Minister.

    Now... if the local elders do not do anything, then call the media and tell them that you know about an Ordained Jehovahs Witness Minister who is trying to have an affair with your husband... I'm sure they would looove to get their media hooks in that!

    That will embarrass the hell out of the congregation for not doing anything.

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