Comments You Will Not Hear at the 11-14-04 WT Study (October 1, 2004) HIGHLIGHTS Review comments will be in black and parentheses ()
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"HAVE TENDER AFFECTION FOR ONE ANOTHER"
"In brotherly love have tender affection for one another."?Roman 12:10 NWT
Well, I?m a little under the weather and this tripe in this article is making it worse. I have mentioned that one of the deciding factors for my no longer attending meetings was the continuing and pervasive lack of showing love in the congregations I have attended over the last almost 50 years. I kept hoping it was just a few people, just that congregation, just that elder body. I found this problem is a cancer that reaches out to all congregations. There are a few, a few exceptions but not due to WTS teachings but mostly from ignoring them. The WTS says they do these things in an outstanding way and then proceeds to downgrade all the good and loving things non-JWs do.
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The WTS starts out with an example of a American JW missionary in Korea (Don NoLastName) whose former students travel thousands of miles to see him on his deathbed. Most elders I knew wouldn?t be caught dead in a hospital, a very few went under duress. Only 2 in my lifetime as a JW were truly caring and were made fun of by the other elders.
w82 9/15 p. 26 New Branch in Korea ***
Among those present were Don (later branch overseer) and Earlene Steele, the first missionaries in Korea.
How many JWs would have traveled thousands of miles to see you on your deathbed? How many would have traveled 5 miles to see you after heart surgery?
Clearly, the relationship between Paul and his brothers went far deeper than shared belief. They had tender affection for one another.
"weeping broke out among them all, and they fell upon Paul?s neck and tenderly kissed him."
Tender Affection and Love
The Greek word (which one?) that Paul used for "tender affection" is made up of two parts, one meaning friendship and the other, natural affection.
The WTS has not been bashful in using philia (phileo) before, why now?
Insight Book (1988) Volume 1 p. 55 Affection
The Greek word phi·lo´stor·gos, meaning "having tender affection," is used of a person who is close to another in warm intimacy. One of the roots of this compound term, ster´go, is frequently used to denote a natural affection, as between family members. The apostle Paul encouraged Christians to cultivate this quality. (Ro 12:10)
w77 2/1 p. 69 "Have Tender Affection for One Another"
It is important to realize that the "tender affection" Paul encouraged at Romans 12:10 is not merely surface politeness. The Greek word philóstorgos there translated "have tender affection" means ?having love for affection,? being close in warm intimacy. Bible scholars note that it is the kind of love frequently expressed between children and parents.
As one Bible scholar (who?) explains, this means that Christians "are to be marked by a devotion that is characteristic of a loving, close-knit and mutually supportive family.
And who is this illusive scholar? Why could they not give his/her name and the source of the quote? Googling was fruitless; do you recognize the quote?
Is that how you feel about your Christian brothers and sisters (only JWs are meant here, not non-JWs)?
Is that how you are treated by the JWs in your congregation?
Yes, love among Christians (JWs) involves more than just logic and duty.
"Taught by God to Love One Another"
Paragraphs 5-7)Although in this world "the love of the greater number" is cooling off (non-JWs), Jehovah is teaching his modern-day people (only JWs) "to love one another."International conventions?opened their homes?showing hospitality to our brothers, regardless of their background, can bring out the best in both guest and host.
How many JWs locally showed you hospitality by inviting you to their homes for a meal, a get-together, to go camping, etc., etc.? Would they open their home if your house burned down, had to be fumigated, or would you be expected to stay with relatives (worldly even) or a hotel?
When our affection is real, our face likely shows it, and it may move the heart of others to respond.
Have you ever been at the KH and had some smile at you and it never goes past the surface? Or someone who asks how you are and is gone before you can reply?
Thoughtful acts?a gift given from the heart?a card?a letter?.
When was the last time someone at the KH who wasn?t a relative gave you a gift? Or sent a card or a letter? It?s rare in this area for people to send cards after a death in the family, even if the family member was a JW too. So many feel that a quick comment at the KH is sufficient.
In times of need, who can you count on at the KH? For a loan, for help with your car, help moving, would visit you at the hospital, see that your family is all right, pick up your meds when you are laid low?Realistically we cannot expect to be close to everyone in the congregation. There will naturally be some to whom we feel closer than we do to others.w88 10/1 p. 11 Appreciation for Our Brothers On the pretext that the Scriptures allow for our having warmer feelings for some brothers than for others, are we inclined to rationalize our feelings? (John 19:26; 20:2) Do we think we can express a cold, reasoned "love" to some because we have to, while we reserve warm brotherly affection for those to whom we are attracted?. "I Have Approved You"
Jesus heard those words from his father.Sadly, some never hear such commendation from those they respect and love (are they talking about elders?)
Ann, notes that her non-JW family only criticize her?she should be in a JW family.In some cultures (which ones), parents, older ones and teachers rarely express wholehearted approval of younger ones (picture below of older Asian woman talking to young Asian girl).Such thinking can even affect Christian (JW) families and the (JW) congregation?"That was all right, but you can do better!"
Isn?t that the theme of the WTS: Do More.Commendation, however should not be given only as a prelude to counsel.
They say this because the WTS trains elders to say something complimentary to the JW they are about the rake over the coals.So rather than letting culture dictate how we treat others (which cultures?)?On the other hand, young ones (ones****), do not conclude that if older ones (ones****) offer you correction or advice, it means that they dislike you.
Actually, it is the fact that "older ones" talk rarely to "young ones" unless it is to "correct" them.Older ones****---particularly congregation elders---often devote much time to thought and prayer before offering counsel.(!!!!) "Jehovah is Very Tender in Affection"
Paragraphs 19-22Unpleasant experiences may have left some with the feeling that showing tender affection would lead only to further disappointment.
Too many JWs over the last 50 years proved to be selfish, gossipy (slanderous), backbiting, lying, uncaring, apathetic. The few caring ones became tired from trying and gave up.Concluding Comments
Don?t get caught up in the outward form of "love" JWs are compelled to show. Don?t do things for the view of humans but if you are truly a Christian, realize that unseen eyes are on you all the time, not trying to catch you doing something bad but to see the good you are doing.
Does the non-JW older neighbor need help with the yard work? Does the non-JW single mother with 3 kids need a afternoon out once a month? Would you donate money to family burnt out of their home if they weren?t JWs? Do you send cards to those who have lost loved ones, whether they are JWs or not? When was the last time you purchased a gift for someone at the KH for no reason? Do you volunteer to pick up people who need rides? When you have movie night at home, do you invite the ones overlooked in life?Blondie (listening to her best friend on the treadmill, good boy, Irrev)