I work for a fairly large organization - we have over 35 satelite offices spread out across the State. There are JW's in some of these satelite offices that I deal with on a regular basis. I have never had a problem with them because I view work as WORK, it is a professional environment and each individual is judged based on their work performance. All of these JW individuals know that I am a DF'd JW, simply because when I started here over 15 years ago I was still a 'dubbie. However, I don't discuss my situation with them because it would be unprofessional. I also don't have any problems being shunned at work - I'd like to think it's because I handle things professionally, but it could be because I am in a rather high position of authority over them all - anyways. Here's my dilema.....
A JW young girl was hired a while back. I trained her and worked closely with her to get her up to speed. Since then, it seems that she seeks me out whenever she can. Not in a bad way - but like she always wants to go to lunch with me, etc. It's great - I invite her along with whoever else is going. A few days back she came to me after work and wanted to visit. She didn't say anything "outright", but I got the impression that she is questioning her organization. She kept saying things like "people I thought were my friends at the Hall have lied", and complaining about people being involved in things they shouldn't be. I kept my end of the conversation very general - just told her that I think sometimes people become "busy bodies" if there are situations in their own life they don't want to deal with. I gave her some general advice on how to handle personal conflict (just like it was an office situation). But I had a very strong feeling she wanted to ask me more - about why I didn't want to be a JW. When she left she gave me a big hug and said she'd like to talk again.
So - hence my dilemna. I want to share with her what I know - but I'm also not sure how to do that being that she basically works under me. I think it would not be professional for me to get involved in that area of her life. I also don't know if she REALLY feels that way, or just wants to be my friend because I'm in a position of authority - sometimes people do that.
If you are a manager type at work - have you dealt with something like this? And how would you handle it?