Let me start off by saying that I love my wife dearly. She is, and has always been my best friend. She is a devoted wife and a wonderful mother. I could not have asked for more. When we met, I was a faithful watchtower adherent and a ministerial servant. After we were married, I became an elder and we pioneered for several years together. However, a few years ago, I began to have serious reservations about my faith and the teachings of the wbts. I started to do some independant research and bible study, and came to feel that I did not have "the truth". Of course, my change in thinking was very difficult for my wife to understand. In fact, after a few tenative discussions, she refused to talk about it any further, and absolutely would not read any of the books or material I had used in my research, calling it apostasy. My religious views and thinking were now viewed with suspision. On one occasion, after praying that her and I could reach some sort of compromise together in spiritual matters, she refused to say amen to the prayer, viewing any compromise as sinful.
All of this has, of course, been very hard to deal with. The complete lack of respect for my feelings and beliefs is astonishing to me. There is no thought given to the idea that I might be right and that these things might be worth at least investigating. I am simply an opposer who should keep his mouth shut. That sentiment is shared by both our families as well.
The problem with trying to keep ones mouth shut, however, leads to its own set of difficulties. As you all know, the wbts's teachings touch every aspect of it's adherents lives. And so, trying to maintain a low profile is difficult while at the same time trying to adhere to one's own convictions. Things like the holidays, birthdays, extra curricular activities for your children, association with wordly friends, etc, all become sources of contention, not to mention salvaging a sense of spirituality together.
So I guess my question is, how have all of you, who are living in divided marriages, dealt with the challenges? Have you been able to find compromises that seem to work? Are your mates willing to associate with your worldly friends and family?
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