This is my first post ever. Happy to be with all of you finally. When I think of disfellowshipping, the thing that always cements in my mind how wrong of a practice it is, is how Jesus acted while on earth. Just look at any story of his exemplary life while on earth and one will see that he constantly practiced forgiveness and mercy. There are many examples that I am sure you could find, but some are:
-talking to the Samaritan woman at the well, the practice was for Jews not to have dealings with them (John 4:9) yet Jesus showed no regard for the laws of men and automatically chose mercy above pretense. When the apostles showed up and asked him what he was doing talking to her, she left immediately, used to being shunned by them. Yet her respect for Jesus is notable and how he treated her. She went and told everyone that perhaps this was the messiah. How much better would it be for the borg if they welcomed ppl like this and forgave quickly. Respect rather than hatred would grow.
-I can't remember the exact passage, but it about a woman that was to be stoned by older men for adultry. When the older men asked Jesus about it, he said, "He would has not sinned, throw the first stone." When he looked up a while later, she was there all alone and he asked her where they were. She said that they had left and he replied that since they did not condemn her, neither would he. Again, mercy shown and a plea on Jesus' part for mercy. He knew that if any speck of justice existed in these men, that one simple phrase would bring it to the fore.
-I am sure that you have heard of the admonition to look after ones family and one that disowns a family member is worse than a person without faith. Why not use this principle to guide wrongdoers? The borg puts family members that ignore/shun other family members in the position of violating a fundemental belief of God.
Lately, the society is preaching that they do not follow 'rules' rather 'principles'. If this is so, why not choose the principles that first and foremost admonish mercy, love and forgiveness? Why choose the few harsh principles that are in the bible? Given low status of women, attitudes about divorce etc...one should look at the bible as it was written 'in it's time'. Principles should be upheld, not laws that were made for an archaic society.