I am witnessing several friends break up at the moment and one of my best mate's wife has constantly denied being in an afair despite be-friending a 21 year old guy who saw more of her than he did, and numerous suspicious txt messages and so on and so on. Anyway, to cut a long story short, he moved in here with me and has just spent three weeks going insane, un-able to sleep, brain over-active, and if he wasn't such a sane chap, almost going paranoid.
Well, some of you know I'm a bit of a geek, so we wired up his home PCs web cam and ran a citrix session with remote control and a web cam recorder with ftp to download the files, and I waited tonight while he watched the result. Bingo. She's lying.
After a tearful evening, the poor chaps just gone to bed, saying he feels like he might get his first night's sleep now that he knows for sure in all these weeks. Truth is, she could have saved him all this if instead of false pretences, she had just told the truth. Instead of "you don't listen to me so I want a trial seperation", she could have said, "there's someone else". This would have saved a whole load of trouble, not to mention hard disk space. (last bit was a joke).
I know I may get a poster say something like "it is difficult", but it is something I have stood by in my life in practice, and I will always believe honesty is the best policy."
