She has to decide.
I'm with ozziepost here, except I'm going to put it a different way: She will make her choice.
yep, guaranteed love and sealed the deal.
Love doesn't seal shit. Love is just a combination of emotions, they can be strong, weak, fade in, and fade out. You can't rely on her words, rely on her actions. There's no use in you interfering with this. This is her issue. If she loves you, she'll tell the elders to go f*** themselves. If her actions are fluxuating, there's no guarantee what she's feeling.
It's best to stand back, watch, and take mental notes. Interfering is going to make matters worse. This has nothing to do with you. This *may* have the possibility of affecting your relationship, but only from her end of things. You're doing the best job you can with the relationship, and I'm sure you've dealt with things that could affect the relationship from your end. Now it's her turn. If she cares about the relationship, she'll do the right thing.