Meet the X-JW same as the Old JW

by gitasatsangha 12 Replies latest jw friends

  • gitasatsangha
    gitasatsangha

    This irked me on some level, and I had to share to see if anyone has had similar things happen.

    I had this friend back when I was in the troof. We had a bit of a falling out, before I left, but nothing huge. I go away and leave the borg, eventually getting DA'd, and move hundreds of miles away due to an unrelated job opportunity. Meanwhile I hear my friend (I think he was an elder) dumps his wife, and moves on with some new woman in the middle of the night. Obviously he leaves the Borg too (Though in a bit more flare then I did). End of story. Well not really.

    A few weeks ago I happen to be in a different city altogether waiting for a table when I see my old pal, coming out of the restaurant with some woman I don't recognize. What were the odds? So, I said hello to him, but he acted like he didn't hear me. His date got embarassed and tld him someone was trying to talk to him. He looked up at me.

    "Hey man it's been years. Wow, it's good to see you. You know I moved?" I asked.

    He looked around nervously.

    "Yeah I moved years ago. I'm out of it man, just wanted to say hi." I tried to explain, but he was already looknig away.

    "Uh, I got to go. I'll talk to you later." and out the restaurant he went, confused broad in arm. Those with me wondered why he acted like that.

    "Well, I guess he's always been kind of a butthead. Maybe he stiffed the waitor."

    Do disfellowshipped people sometimes still feel the old JW urge to label out other X-jdubs as bad association? That was wierd. Dude, if you're out there reading this, you know who you are. You left that dog, behind. Don't take it's fleas with you.

  • sandy
    sandy

    I think that could very likely be the case. He probably comforts his own fears by telling himself he'll eventually be back in the org. because he still believes it is the truth.

    You are still the anti-christ to him.

    As we all know these are deep seeded fears and even though one is disfellowshipped that doesn't mean he no longer thinks like a JW.

  • shamus
    shamus

    I knew guys who were DF'd from our group that would hang out together while still "out", waiting to get back in, LOL! I don't know what his problem is....

  • Gopher
    Gopher

    An elder from the last hall I was in declared that "disfellowshipped people aren't supposed to talk to other disfellowshipped ones."

    ???

    I think that means -- if you're disfellowshipped and want back in to Jehovah's "clean" organization, you cannot associate with others who are also bad association.

    I think the numbskull who avoided Gitasatsangha either wants back in or wants to leave the door open for his triumphant return to Jehovah's "clean" organization.

    Or else he was embarrassed by what he did, feels guilty and doesn't want an old friend reminding him of the old times.

  • shamus
    shamus

    Strange gopher... in our hall they could, LOL!

    Wonder what the "official" word is on this issue.

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    He is probably still a jw, even though he's dfd, ie, not a thing of the wt in him has been undone/deprogrammed. You appear to be deprogrammed, so you're not a jw. Anyway, apostasy is much worse to them than immorality is.

    SS

  • wednesday
    wednesday

    the offical word, as it was just a few(less than 5) yrs ago, if u are DF, u can't associate with anyone, not other DF people, not JWS, not worldly people. U must attend meetings and hope an elder will occ smile at u. I'm very serious, they do believe this. I know not everyone follows the rules, but those are the rules. Maybe blondie can find the written word. Oh your family may chose to occ talk to u, family business. But maybe not.

  • Gopher
    Gopher
    if u are DF, u can't associate with anyone, not other DF people, not JWS, not worldly people.

    That's the conclusion I reached. It was a major factor in convincing me that JW rules are heartless and unloving, and that I'd never go back. (The phrase "control freaks" comes to mind.)

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    If he is trying to get back in...........and is caught associating with you, it would deter his getting back in...

    or maybe he is back in.. and doesn't want to get kicked back out..

    who knows.. but he sure doesn't seem worth it to me..

  • gitasatsangha
    gitasatsangha

    thanks everyone. I can see it from a different point of view now.

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