I'm back online! - and a letter to the elders

by dmouse 34 Replies latest jw friends

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  Winston Smith :>D

  I would love to be a fly on that wall!

  What I would love is to have someone make a feature movie of your life and others who have had marraiges thrown into ruins because of this doomsday cult.

  When these 'fruitcakes' with their plastic smiles come knocking at their doors, they will know that JW's are not the nice, loving, family orientated group they come off as.

  The WTS really is a destructive cult.

  I also have a gut feeling that everyone "get's their's" in the end. What comes around, goes around.

  IMHO, both you and your wife will get your just desserts in the end
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  amac

  Wow! What a letter! Good luck with your new life...
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  avishai

  DM, I'm sorry, & I love and respect you, man, I really do, your posts are awsome. But I'm gonna get a little harsh. I'm not in your position, understand, so I don't know all the ins and outs. But from my view, you're being way to passive. She's using dub tactics against you, NOT legal ones, which is to your advantage. Some people are so into dubdom they thi8nk that EVERYONE recognizes jw law. It sounds like that with your wife. I've heard elders who are being sued in court by x-dubs stand up and say to the judge "SHE'S DISFELLOWSHIPPED!!!" as if it meant something to the judge. The judge looked at him like he was the whacko he was and said "So?" Grow a pair, man, it's YOUR HOUSE TOO!!! Call the police if she locks you out, & have them let you in. I'm not in England, but I'm pretty sure she can't do that. Take back your self respect!!!!! (((((D_mouse)))))
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  SixofNine

  my wife requested that I not enter the house when she wasn't there (even though she changed the locks my kids let me in). I thought it was a reasonable request so I complied.

  I have to agree with Avishai. Your timidity through all of this (your past post on this subject included) is shocking to me, as is the above statement. I don't know when you lost your perspective, probably a very long time ago, but you need to get it back. You aren't going to be married to her anymore; it's time to stop being afraid of her, or, more accurately, it's time to overcome your fear of her and stand up for yourself and your children.
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  frenchbabyface

  
  Not sure it is really fear about her (still she's quiet sneaky !!!) ... to me it feels more like he is tired and faught with patience long enough without getting violent or insane !

  Avishai is right !!! JUSTICE will probably be more objective on the subject ... and yes she just can't shut the door of YOUR OWN HOUSE (still to both of you) as far as YOU are NOT violent ! If she don't want to open the door the cops will do it (or the law of property are really different in your country).

  Not sure staying in the same home would do any good , you probably need to stay on your own a little bit anyway to get your pieces together ... but DMOUSE Avishai and Sixo, are right ... take over quickly on every aspect you can with the law and well patience (I know ... again) ... but THEN YOU'LL BE FREEEEEEEEEEEEE !

  Think also about asking for your daughter, she may have the right to ask (by herself) to stay with you if you feel a real need to protect her. (here they can at 13 if I do remember)

  Wish you the best D-Mouse ...